"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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jon3947

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I think that the sosuave service should hire several women to give their opinions, then we will get the right answer from the people we want, instead of a bunch of guys opinions.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mavrick

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Um, women don't know what they want. They'll say something, but respond to something totally different.
 

jon3947

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the mods could get women who are honest and know what to answer
 

MotownMack

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I think that the sosuave service should hire several women to give their opinions, then we will get the right answer from the people we want, instead of a bunch of guys opinions.
Complete garbage.

The whole premise of many of these methods is that attraction is not a choice and half the time, girls don't know why are really attracted to in a guy.

Ask you're average girl, and she'll describe an AFC through about 90% of the way. But most of them wouldn't touch an AFC with a 10 foot pole, and if they do, they aren't thrilled with the relationship or they'll get bored and move on.

On a few basic things, their opinions can be of value. Many of them can identify some very basic elements of their attraction- confidence, height, financial stability, or in some cases what they don't want - e.g., really needy guys, controlling guys, etc.

But the fact is, all of the advice you will get from women is usually very generic and will be of a little use to you, if not flat out wrong. They are often conflicted and remain attracted or with men that are completely wrong for them, far removed from what they'd describe intellectually.

FYI-there are other sites, for example dating sites, that have forums, and I have experienced it first hand. Reading post after post of girls giving bad advice on what to do to attract a woman in a given situation (or what women want), that is completely contrary to my own personal experience. I spent about a year in the forums of one such site, so I consider myself to be somewhat of an authority-at least in terms of the poor advice I'd seem disseminated there. Why do you think I am here?

Some women do get it and will occasionally give decent advice. But I can tell you it's far from the majority. And it got tiresome listening to the ones who don't get it acting like they were experts just because they were girls.

Look at it this way-at best, a girl can only truly know what attracts her - that's a sample of one. Guys like those on this forum, can tell you what attracts and goes on in the mind of most girls.
 

jon3947

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ur right girls would only give generic stuff and say they like the afc
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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