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Girls Not Posting Pic of Boyfriend

CheekyMonkey101

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Hi guys.

There's this girl who posts quite a lot on Instagram about her trips to random places and activities she gets up to, including pictures of her in these pics.

For Valentine's Day, I noticed that she posted three pics of herself with a wine glass which her boyfriend took (no pictures at all of him on her on Instagram). The only mention of him was in the description about him taking the photos.

Now bear in mind this girl is 30, has a few male friends and has reportedly said that she "thinks she might get bored of men" after talking about previous relationships she has had.

Is this a typical "keeping my options open whilst having a BF" situation or am I likely reading too much into it as she could just be private?

I just found this dynamic quite strange and was wondering where the boyfriend would be wrong to put up with this.
 

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Instagram = Window shopping
It's the Advertisement Effect

Women that posed in photos alone had greater attractiveness compared to being in photos with other people, including men.
They get more views & more engagement from men on Instagram, which boosts their profile ranking.

Victoria's Secret took advantage of the Advertisement Effect in the 90s's by mailing out free catalogs to every home, and it worked.
 

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You don't ever commit to these types. They are great for good times and thats it.

A good woman that is super into her man doesn't act like this.

This girl is indirectly communicating what she thinks of her man and values attention over anything else. As guys you need to learn to make sense of this stuff, or it will bite you in the azz eventually.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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if she is proud to be seen with you and thinks you are for her then she would tell and brag about it. including on Instagram. does she "think" being seen with you is a plus or a minus. the pictures tell.
She does post pictures to her story of her trips and activities (supposedly with him) but never any photos with him in it/of him.
 

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You don't ever commit to these types. They are great for good times and thats it.

A good woman that is super into her man doesn't act like this.

This girl is indirectly communicating what she thinks of her man and values attention over anything else. As guys you need to learn to make sense of this stuff, or it will bite you in the azz eventually.
She does post pictures to her story of her trips and activities (supposedly with him) but never any photos with him in it/of him. So make of that what you will. I'd never have thought she had a bf until she mentioned him in that post.
 

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A lot of people don’t post their partners on social media until the relationship is very serious and committed.

Also, some women pretend to be single and entice thirsty guys to see if they can upgrade from their current partner. There’s also the other side of the coin where they might lose their orbiters if those guys know she’s in a relationship and don’t think they have a chance with her.

Some women also do it because they’re more worried about their female peers judging their boyfriend’s looks.

Not saying that’s what’s happening here at all, I just think there’s more than one possible reason.
 

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A lot of people don’t post their partners on social media until the relationship is very serious and committed.

Also, some women pretend to be single and entice thirsty guys to see if they can upgrade from their current partner. There’s also the other side of the coin where they might lose their orbiters if those guys know she’s in a relationship and don’t think they have a chance with her.

Some women also do it because they’re more worried about their female peers judging their boyfriend’s looks.

Not saying that’s what’s happening here at all, I just think there’s more than one possible reason.
And with her other activities like having male friends, saying she thinks she might get bored of men, etc?
 

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@CheekyMonkey101 "Now bear in mind this girl is 30, has a few male friends and has reportedly said that she "thinks she might get bored of men" after talking about previous relationships she has had"

-Not a "girl" at that age

-Life will soon be solving her dilemma for her... A solution she'll become painfully aware of when the doorman denies her entrance into the club, yet waves a dozen 19 year old USC freshgals in, less hesitatingly than The Chechnyan Mafia beheads a debtor via buzzsaw. Tough to tire of an entire demographic, when said demographic becomes indifferent to your existence
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Pretty much describes every Insta-Thot ever

There's this girl
anything about this particular one that stands out from all the others?
I mean, it's what they all do, it's validation seeking.

Are they thirst-trap pics?
In which case, the real (rhetorical) question is, if she's got a "boyfriend", why is she posting them in the first place
 

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Pretty much describes every Insta-Thot ever


anything about this particular one that stands out from all the others?
I mean, it's what they all do, it's validation seeking.

Are they thirst-trap pics?
In which case, the real (rhetorical) question is, if she's got a "boyfriend", why is she posting them in the first place
I knew her from before, but it just got me thinking as it struck me as weird dynamic.

Not quite thirst trap, more of her holding a wine glass in a few photos at a restaurant (which her boyfriend took). No photos of him at all on her page, but posts a lot of her travel pics and of herself with her friends.
 

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Ill wrap this thread up with the definitive answer with my own personal experience.


YES its keep her options open.

For 2.5 years of my 3.5 year relationship I was posted and tagged on social media, captions were written to how amazing I am.

The last year that stopped, I asked her about it calmly and the bull**** answer I got was "I feel people put bad energy on you when they see you happy, im protecting my peace"

In my gut I didnt buy this bull****, but she was acting fine to me in person and I didnt really care about social media personally.

Well i got dumped out of the blue, she told me I wasnt amazing and she wasnt happy the past year. Instead of communicating like women are so good at (LOL) she slow faded and left without working on thing. Now I had dropped back my efforts to match hers during this time and wasnt happy with her myself. So I didnt beg, but 6 months out I can see that she was addicted to the attention her social media gave her.

She only posts herself constantly. Its a shame she needs to seek that constant validation.
 

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Probably more of a guy that thinks he is her boyfriend a whole lot more than she thinks she is his girlfriend.
Nah, she knows 1000% that she is his. She texts him daily, they feck, she ducks his sick, hugging at night the whole nine yard. Crying on his shoulder, saying thst she loves him and shyte, asking him advice knowing all his secrets ect. If he won't respond she'll flip the feck out for example

She does however feels like she's better than him. He's the safety blanket. I do agree that he will sacrifice more for her than vice versa.
A lot of people don’t post their partners on social media until the relationship is very serious and committed.

Also, some women pretend to be single and entice thirsty guys to see if they can upgrade from their current partner. There’s also the other side of the coin where they might lose their orbiters if those guys know she’s in a relationship and don’t think they have a chance with her.

Some women also do it because they’re more worried about their female peers judging their boyfriend’s looks.

Not saying that’s what’s happening here at all, I just think there’s more than one possible reason.
Let's see how fast she posts when she dates " Drizzy or Leo ".

Amd yes those are mega stars. So let's say she could AI her perfect looking bf and watch how she fills her entire page with pictures of the two of them together...
Ill wrap this thread up with the definitive answer with my own personal experience.


YES its keep her options open.

For 2.5 years of my 3.5 year relationship I was posted and tagged on social media, captions were written to how amazing I am.

The last year that stopped, I asked her about it calmly and the bull**** answer I got was "I feel people put bad energy on you when they see you happy, im protecting my peace"

In my gut I didnt buy this bull****, but she was acting fine to me in person and I didnt really care about social media personally.

Well i got dumped out of the blue, she told me I wasnt amazing and she wasnt happy the past year. Instead of communicating like women are so good at (LOL) she slow faded and left without working on thing. Now I had dropped back my efforts to match hers during this time and wasnt happy with her myself. So I didnt beg, but 6 months out I can see that she was addicted to the attention her social media gave her.

She only posts herself constantly. Its a shame she needs to seek that constant validation.
Classic monkeybrance, seeded by her ever lingering disdain of you. Couldn't jump to the next d1ck because there was none( yet).

These are the valuable lessons that turns us in to, ironically enough, the type of man that she WON'T just leave...think about that. Chad brat pookie or whatever been played, got cold, has trust issues and ironically/ unfortunately/ sinisterly enough that's that toxic combination that makes her hooked.. so if you could "time machine" yourself back while keeping that distrust of her she might've ended up pregnant by you and all that. Not that it would've improved YOUR life longterm as eventually they'll leave either way..

Once you understand this you will know how much you can actually get away with, even with hb8 and up. Beating, cheating, silent treatments, stds , anything goes once she gets (on)the " right emotional rollercoaster ' ..one of the secrets that beta men/ nice guys will NEVER grasps. .(Because thesw men will keep on trying to imitate their bluepilled beta bytch fathers who at least "always had mama on his side" despite his lack of charisma, obese gut and all that )

I had my first love going through this. I was 16 mind you( and I was a beta bytch). First glance a nice decent clean woman who you'd THINK wants the princess treatment .But when I dailed her number years later just out of curiosity, she apparently had a thuggish pookie bf who beat the F out of her, ,black eyes and shyte but she remained loyal to him... I was literally shocked LOL
 
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Nah, she knows 1000% that she is his. She texts him daily, they feck, she ducks his sick, hugging at night the whole nine yard. Crying on his shoulder, saying thst she loves him and shyte, asking him advice knowing all his secrets ect. If he won't respond she'll flip the feck out for example

She does however feels like she's better than him. He's the safety blanket. I do agree that he will sacrifice more for her than vice versa.

Let's see how fast she posts when she dates " Drizzy or Leo ".

Amd yes those are mega stars. So let's say she could AI her perfect looking bf and watch how she fills her entire page with pictures of the two of them together...
Classic monkeybrance, seeded by her ever lingering disdain of you. Couldn't jump to the next d1ck because there was none( yet).

These are the valuable lessons that turns us in to, ironically enough, the type of man that she WON'T just leave...think about that. Chad brat pookie or whatever been played, got cold, has trust issues and ironically/ unfortunately/ sinisterly enough that's that toxic combination that makes her hooked.. so if you could "time machine" yourself back while keeping that distrust of her she might've ended up pregnant by you and all that. Not that it would've improved YOUR life longterm as eventually they'll leave either way..

Once you understand this you will know how much you can actually get away with, even with hb8 and up. Beating, cheating, silent treatments, stds , anything goes once she gets (on)the " right emotional rollercoaster ' ..one of the secrets that beta men/ nice guys will NEVER grasps. .(Because thesw men will keep on trying to imitate their bluepilled beta bytch fathers who at least "always had mama on his side" despite his lack of charisma, obese gut and all that )

I had my first love going through this. I was 16 mind you( and I was a beta bytch). First glance a nice decent clean woman who you'd THINK wants the princess treatment .But when I dailed her number years later just out of curiosity, she apparently had a thuggish pookie bf who beat the F out of her, ,black eyes and shyte but she remained loyal to him... I was literally shocked LOL
Yeah, my exes issue was that I held boundaries, I didnt pander to her every whim. She saw that as a sign I didnt love her (when everyone online tells you how amazing you are it must feel strange to have a partner who holds you accountable)
 

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If she's just a normal person then her excluding her significant other from her pics would definitely be a red flag. However if she's some kind of influencer (or trying to be) she probably realizes she'll get a lot more clicks posting as a single gal versus everything being about her and her bf.
 

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If she's just a normal person then her excluding her significant other from her pics would definitely be a red flag. However if she's some kind of influencer (or trying to be) she probably realizes she'll get a lot more clicks posting as a single gal versus everything being about her and her bf.
Normal person, but goes on trips nearly every weekend. Said previously that she thinks she gets bored of men when in a relationship.
 
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