Girls night out

[In2theGame]

Your post is extremely vague in important areas.

Is she just "a girl you know"?

Are you exclusive? How long?

Just dating?

What gift did she drop off?

What other indications do you have that she was on a GNO?

That's what I was trying to figure out lol according to him its his "main" baby moma but overall, it doesnt sound like this is his official Woman so this whole Girls Night Out doesnt mean anything.

 

[RangerMIke]

Mike i think this is a problem of guys getting complacent. They just get lazy. This thinking there are better men out there comes later when the paranoia phase sets in.

I agree. Too many men, when they get into relationships, think they can take it easy and coast. When you are in a relationship, in 2020 it's three times harder to keep her than to GET her.

I don't do relationships because I don't want to put in the work. I like being able to just do whatever the fvck I want and not have to check in with a chick. If I start getting emotional manipulative mind games... well I just take out the trash. If you are in a relationship... not only do you have to put up with all this BS, but because society doesn't have your back, you are the bad guy no matter what she does. She can blow some dude in a restroom during "girl's night out", and it's your fault because you made her do it by not being man enough.

I date a lot, and exes always comes up. Only one woman I have dated in the last 5 years has said she was the reason things didn't work out... ONE. She just up and admitted her husband was a great guy, but she wasn't turned on by him anymore and sex with him became a chore... eventually she just dumped him, I liked this one.... I know some of you would think "RangerMike, WTF is wrong with you!"... Well, this one is honest, I like that. We dated for awhile, then she got bored with me... hey sh!t happens. Believe it or not, we are still friends.

Every other woman I've dated.... well their ex was the one that fvcked up. Usually it called 'emotional abuse', because anytime you don't do what a woman wants, you are abusing her. She will pick and pick and pick at some poor dude, until he has had enough and pushes back... then he becomes the abuser.

I'm not really knocking relationships, they just DO NOT work for me AT ALL. You can make a relationship work... but remember IT IS WORK. LOTS OF WORK. IMO the benefits of a relationship do not out weigh the cost.... but many men think it's worth it. All I an say is good luck.

 

[Vantagepoint34]

I agree. Too many men, when they get into relationships, think they can take it easy and coast. When you are in a relationship, in 2020 it's three times harder to keep her than to GET her.

I don't do relationships because I don't want to put in the work. I like being able to just do whatever the fvck I want and not have to check in with a chick. If I start getting emotional manipulative mind games... well I just take out the trash. If you are in a relationship... not only do you have to put up with all this BS, but because society doesn't have your back, you are the bad guy no matter what she does. She can blow some dude in a restroom during "girl's night out", and it's your fault because you made her do it by not being man enough.

I date a lot, and exes always comes up. Only one woman I have dated in the last 5 years has said she was the reason things didn't work out... ONE. She just up and admitted her husband was a great guy, but she wasn't turned on by him anymore and sex with him became a chore... eventually she just dumped him, I liked this one.... I know some of you would think "RangerMike, WTF is wrong with you!"... Well, this one is honest, I like that. We dated for awhile, then she got bored with me... hey sh!t happens. Believe it or not, we are still friends.

Every other woman I've dated.... well their ex was the one that fvcked up. Usually it called 'emotional abuse', because anytime you don't do what a woman wants, you are abusing her. She will pick and pick and pick at some poor dude, until he has had enough and pushes back... then he becomes the abuser.

I'm not really knocking relationships, they just DO NOT work for me AT ALL. You can make a relationship work... but remember IT IS WORK. LOTS OF WORK. IMO the benefits of a relationship do not out weigh the cost.... but many men think it's worth it. All I an say is good luck.

True it's a lot of work. You know better than anyone divorce rate is 70% Idc what other books say otherwise. All these dj's on here don't even know what an option play is. All I asked these guys what theoretically they'd do. Some said their girls weren't healthy in that aspect. Maybe the whole theory of a girl with a healthy social circle was from 15 years ago. That seemed to be the truth from what the guys posted.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Understatement an 100% true Mike.

To me personally healthy doesnt mean stupid and it doesn't necessarily we need to bow to womens imperative social pressures.
Like.
"you dont trust her you bad man"
" the independent woman" etc etc.

For me personally if shes stumbling in the door at 1 am. Shes a plate.
No way in hell would i ever invest in that bs again.
I know longer confuse a few office ppl going to happy hour with night branching girl to meet up with orbiters that validate her SMV while hubby or bf is at home being a good boy.

Some dudes might dig it but in my experience it at some point will become an issue IF your invested.

Exactly. Give us something to trust.

 

[RangerMIke]

My current girl has been very hands-off. I can tell she's super into me but there's no pestering. I'm not sure what will happen if/when she pushes for more. Right now she has some of her own things to work out. But I just don't like checking in with someone. I've hated that since I was a kid and had to report to my parents. We'll see what happens.

All women who like you start out like this... at least it is my experience. Believe it or not, women as a general rule prefer a man they can't push around. But at some point, when they realize that they are not going to be able to exert control, they get frustrated and move on... they still like you, in fact most women I date I maintain at least a cordial relationship with, but when they sit around with their friends... cackling like hens... the woman hears "Honey... you're just a door mat... blah blah blah... you're not getting any younger.... blah blah blah.... et. al ad infinitum" Then some weak @ss, pvssy worshiping fool comes along, and she's gone. This has happened to me so many times I have lost count. I can think of SIX women (Becky, Ashley, Genevieve, Ashley II, Blair) off the top of my head, in the last 3 years who ended up marrying or engaged to the next dude they 'dated'.

Ashley is especially funny, she ended up marrying a guy that doesn't have a ice cube's chance in hell of keeping her. I've watched that poor guy sell his boat, had to buy a second house... replacing the one he had (this happened because we live in a community property State... this new house is now "Community" property) if this marriage fall apart, the house that he already owned outright, NOW becomes half her's, shave his beard, she turned all his hunting dogs into pets she dresses up in clothes... she dresses him up in matching clothes, and is now part of her social media BS, he has completely lost himself in this relationship.

I am about to lose Sydney... all the signs are there.... oh well, sh!t happens.

I will keep doing this until my SMV drops so low that I'm not in the game anymore (and the truth is as I age... it's coming fast) Then I will enjoy my retirement spending my money the way I want, doing what I want to do... without some chick dragging me around by a nose ring.

 

[In2theGame]

I agree. Too many men, when they get into relationships, think they can take it easy and coast. When you are in a relationship, in 2020 it's three times harder to keep her than to GET her.

I don't do relationships because I don't want to put in the work. I like being able to just do whatever the fvck I want and not have to check in with a chick. If I start getting emotional manipulative mind games... well I just take out the trash. If you are in a relationship... not only do you have to put up with all this BS, but because society doesn't have your back, you are the bad guy no matter what she does. She can blow some dude in a restroom during "girl's night out", and it's your fault because you made her do it by not being man enough.

I date a lot, and exes always comes up. Only one woman I have dated in the last 5 years has said she was the reason things didn't work out... ONE. She just up and admitted her husband was a great guy, but she wasn't turned on by him anymore and sex with him became a chore... eventually she just dumped him, I liked this one.... I know some of you would think "RangerMike, WTF is wrong with you!"... Well, this one is honest, I like that. We dated for awhile, then she got bored with me... hey sh!t happens. Believe it or not, we are still friends.

Every other woman I've dated.... well their ex was the one that fvcked up. Usually it called 'emotional abuse', because anytime you don't do what a woman wants, you are abusing her. She will pick and pick and pick at some poor dude, until he has had enough and pushes back... then he becomes the abuser.

I'm not really knocking relationships, they just DO NOT work for me AT ALL. You can make a relationship work... but remember IT IS WORK. LOTS OF WORK. IMO the benefits of a relationship do not out weigh the cost.... but many men think it's worth it. All I an say is good luck.

I'm in an LTR now but man, I 100% understand what you're saying here.

 

[RangerMIke]

So you're telling me you date white women...lol

LOL! I honestly didn't notice that but yep... all these women are white.. I also forgot to list Britteny, who is also white. Another common thread is that they are all in their 30s. But I don't just date white women. I'm dating one now that is Vietnamese, and another I have a 1st date with Thursday (if she shows up), who is a Latina.

Wondering how old are you? I'm 44 now.

52... and I have to say in the last year, I've noticed I'm slowing down... Sex drive isn't what it used to be I really can't 'date' more than two women at a time.. I just do not have the energy..... I'm in bed by 10pm or the next day I'm worthless. I used to work out every day... now I'm having to take more rest days... it's harder to keep the fat off... I've had to adjust my eating habits... arthritis in my shoulder and knee is getting harder to ignore. If this keeps up by the time I'm 55, I'll be done and will not be able to keep up.... but I'm going to try and make it to 60.