"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girls, need a helping hand here guys.

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Ok, I'll be brief.
This girl I've known for a while, afternoon lessons, i had sent her a valentines card and have always been nice to her, but havent been totally AFC by saying "oh i want your babies plz :(" at any time, anyway, we finished our last lesson a while ago, she sent me a message she misses me, so i called her up, had a nice chat, signals were good, her little sister likes me too (she's 8, the one im interested in is 16 :p). Next day, she calls me up, "for her sister", like if im single, available and stuff, i handled that totally cool. Also she asked me if anything happened between me and this other girl i had told her like 6 months earlier I liked, nothing did and I told her so in not so many words, no worries there. Her signals were good, made her laugh, it was all good.

Next day, I sent her a message, see whats up, if she was home to call her, no answer.. Previous day, though, I had sent her a message about a test she had, but she said she couldnt reply at the time and just called me later (read above). She hasn't replied yet, and I might have made a mistake by sending her one just earlier now (2 days after when she hasnt replied, thats saturday sunday, this is monday). Whats up with this :( I can figure she likes me, but I dont know whats going on.
Any advice?
I won't message her again until she does, i guess, but anyone can tell me a good technique here?

Sorry If I dont make much sense :eek:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You've blown your chances in your AFC days. Wtf is the "babies" comment? I'm suprised she even wants to talk to you.

It isn't too late to turn to corner with other girls tho. Read the Bible, back to front, several times. Now. Do not post again until you have.
 
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Heh sounds like someones a bit desperate
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LOL
Guys, I meant I like her a fair amount, but I wasn't AFC at all, and I DIDN'T say anything like 'omg i want your babies" :p, that was just metaphorical!
rofl that would just be too embarassing to live with!

I just said that thing as a joke, guys, cmon, I'm not that stupid :p

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ANYWAY! The whole point of the post is that we're on good terms, spoken on the phone recently a couple of times, but now suddenly she hasnt answered a couple of messages and I don't know what to do.
Reread the post from 'Next day' i guess ;p

I was pretty tired when i first posted it seems ;p sorry :rolleyes:
 
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Bro, if she likes you enough to randomly call and ask if ur single and say she misses you... msging her a few times isnt gonna ruin it. Just call her up and invite her out, quite beeting around the bush.
 
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Why do people reply to others questions with random bullsht?

The purpose of this forum is to help people not fvcking laugh at them.

Gravstar - Hope you buffed your ego a little bashing on a guy looking for help, perhaps you could take that sage like observation and stamp it on your forehead where is truly belongs.

aftershock - Girls don't tell you they miss you, and call you to check up on your past relationships, if you're single, and all the interest signs of "ask me out please!" if you've blown it.

VIVAlasVEGASBaby - Were you looking in the mirror when you posted that?

MrS - Just like tony said...grab your balls, call her up tomorrow, and ask her out.
 
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Ouch that really hurt:rolleyes:
i had sent her a valentines card and have always been nice to her
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saying "oh i want your babies plz "
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her little sister likes me too (she's 8, the one im interested in is 16 :p)
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I guess im the only one who thinks this thread is a joke, but im glad you feel cool for being so mature Qmanchoo.

To the original poster-
stop worrying about whether or not she likes you. Ask her to hang out and by her response you'll find out "if she likes you"
 
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lol vivalasvegasbaby you missed the point completely :) laugh if you want, dont bother replying to this thread again, no offence meant but i dont want a flamewar.
Peace, eh?

Thanks for the advice dudes, I will :p
I guess im kinda waiting for HER to call, but i will myself, thanks again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maybe it was a little too soon, texting the day after and all.
But just ask her out and find out for yourself.

You seem sure you haven't been AFC just because you didn't say you wanted her babies? It takes a lot less than that to be an AFC.
 
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lol no i truly did think this thread was a joke. I read through it quickly and i saw the quotes posted above and i seriously thought u were joking. No offense meant, i wasn't trying to be a sarcastic a**hole.

Next day, she calls me up, "for her sister", like if im single, available and stuff, i handled that totally cool. Also she asked me if anything happened between me and this other girl i had told her like 6 months earlier I liked, nothing did and I told her so in not so many words, no worries there. Her signals were good, made her laugh, it was all good.
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Don't worry about it! You're in. Give her a call, set up a date and see where it goes from there. Keep us posted.
dont bother replying to this thread again
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hehe i couldn't resist:D
 
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