Girls mentioning boyfriend with a twist... good or bad?

[JaguarMike]

For some reason THREE girls all told me they had boyfriends today, and I didn't even ask or number close... lol wtf. The reason I am bringing this up is because they were not the typical "oh... sorry I have a boyfriend" type statements designed to push away men. This was different, kinda weird... and intriguing.

Girl A: I'm outside waiting for class to start, when a HB9 walks outside on a cellphone. I look at her, she doesn't see me, then I start reading my material. She goes, "um, this is a weird question, but is this rashashana?" I smile but stumble and go, "I honestly dont know... wait, someone in my class said it was." and she goes "haha ok because I just wished my mother in law a happy rashashana." I go "ok" and she goes "yeah and my boyfriend didnt know either" bla bla she calls someone up to verify and I ask "so you in the clear?" she says "yeah, thanks for caring" she smiles at me when shes going back to class and drops her phone into like 5 pieces, maybe she was flustered, maybe she is just clumsy.

Girl B: My english class was sent to write a literary review on some chosen poems bla bla bla im sitting next to this hot blonde girl and started flirting/making fun of her (basically ****y and funny with my own twist). She starts hitting me, LOTS of kino, bla bla bla and she called me a name (ass goblin or something) and I called her my favorite cuss word in the book. She said her boyfriend says "raper monkey" all the time, I look at her like she just farted, and say "maybe you need to get a new boyfriend" she goes "well I dont need a new one" whatever that means.

Girl C: I'm bored out of my mind, my professor is talking about nonsense and I start to make the hot brunette to my left laugh. I drew a smiley face on my finger, and put the part of looseleaf paper u take off when its in a binder, I put it into a circle and put it as a hat on my finger and go "hey look its finger jesus" and she BUSTS out laughing. Professor even gets mad, and she goes "omg you're funnier than my boyfriend."



WHAT is going on here. Are they trying to tell me something in some foreign alien woman language? Or am I just dumb. Please give your feedback lol.

 

[guitaronfire411]

Girl a) Don't bother
Girl B) Don't bother
Girl C) She might like you, but if she splits up with her boyfriend, what does that say about her integrity?

 

[Tazman]

Maybe they can sense you coming on to them (even if you don't technically make a move or ask them out) and the one girl who asked you about rashashana mentioned the bf so you wouldn't think SHE was coming on to you.

Although one girl (who initiated flirting with me) who mentioned having a bf was interested because she made it a point to complain about him so I could "hear" it. I don't think she wanted to "trade" me for him, but she probably wanted a little on the side.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

 

[SevenOne9]

Here's my thoughts...

Girl A: You payed attention to her, she's used to having her presence acknowledged (As you say, she's a HB9)... you gave in to her reality instead of reeling her in.

Girl B: You let her touch you instead of goin', "Hands off the merchandise -- that'll be $1 please"... once again, you got sucked into her reality instead of you gettin' in control.

Girl C: Instead of you trying to qualify this chick, you tried to qualify yourself to her as being an entertaining monkey -- which pretty much screams, "Hey! Look at me, I NEED attention".

I think you could've handled it better. And also, I believe those were very sneaky tests that they put out.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

It was just one of them days.

But it ain't the end of the world there are about a couple billion of single women left on this planet so its all good.

My guess though is you were coming on to strong. You are there to learn and you must of showed way to much interest in B) and C). And with A) she must of saw the way you gawked at her and continued while talking to her.

But way look on the positive side they saved you a lot of time and energy by subtly letting you know earlier instead of getting shut down when you finally asked their number. And besides you don't want to be with these girls there too flirty considering they have BF.

Just keep on playin the field and try not to show so much desire and interest.

 

[Fatality]

Maybe they were telling you to basically back off but some chicks think that your attraction toward them will increase if they tell you they have a boyfriend. Girls are always more attracted to guys that are taken. They assume that guys would be the same way and they don't think them having a boyfriend would stop you from making a move. It's dumb chick logic.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by JaguarMike
For some reason THREE girls all told me they had boyfriends today, and I didn't even ask or number close... lol wtf. The reason I am bringing this up is because they were not the typical "oh... sorry I have a boyfriend" type statements designed to push away men. This was different, kinda weird... and intriguing.

Girl A: I'm outside waiting for class to start, when a HB9 walks outside on a cellphone. I look at her, she doesn't see me, then I start reading my material. She goes, "um, this is a weird question, but is this rashashana?" I smile but stumble and go, "I honestly dont know... wait, someone in my class said it was." and she goes "haha ok because I just wished my mother in law a happy rashashana." I go "ok" and she goes "yeah and my boyfriend didnt know either" bla bla she calls someone up to verify and I ask "so you in the clear?" she says "yeah, thanks for caring" she smiles at me when shes going back to class and drops her phone into like 5 pieces, maybe she was flustered, maybe she is just clumsy.

Girl B: My english class was sent to write a literary review on some chosen poems bla bla bla im sitting next to this hot blonde girl and started flirting/making fun of her (basically ****y and funny with my own twist). She starts hitting me, LOTS of kino, bla bla bla and she called me a name (ass goblin or something) and I called her my favorite cuss word in the book. She said her boyfriend says "raper monkey" all the time, I look at her like she just farted, and say "maybe you need to get a new boyfriend" she goes "well I dont need a new one" whatever that means.

Girl C: I'm bored out of my mind, my professor is talking about nonsense and I start to make the hot brunette to my left laugh. I drew a smiley face on my finger, and put the part of looseleaf paper u take off when its in a binder, I put it into a circle and put it as a hat on my finger and go "hey look its finger jesus" and she BUSTS out laughing. Professor even gets mad, and she goes "omg you're funnier than my boyfriend."



WHAT is going on here. Are they trying to tell me something in some foreign alien woman language? Or am I just dumb. Please give your feedback lol.

Not to diss you man but why are you posting this? You know all 3 of these chicks are no-good...


"Never make someone a priority when you're only an option for them"

 

[JaguarMike]

These were all good points, made sense to me. I especially enjoyed the part about playing into realities. You wanna elaborate on that?

 

[Anirak]

No matter what they say, do not give up on any of them if you are interested in them. I don't think they've shown enough signs that they will never be interested, and you can always build more attraction.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by Anirak
No matter what they say, do not give up on any of them if you are interested in them. I don't think they've shown enough signs that they will never be interested, and you can always build more attraction.

Please rationalize this young-one...why would you go for chicks who has a BF? UNless you just want to F*ck,you're not going to get what you want---despite popular belief, there are TONS of single women you just have to be bold enough to find out which ones they are....

 

[JaguarMike]

freemon, no need to put down the little dj just yet. All I want to do is f*ck. So i'm not missing out on anything by going for girls with boyfriends, lol. I have my mind set on other girls for relationship material. My mind works that all I want is sex until the girl proves her worth. Isn't that how we all should approach it.

 

[SevenOne9]

Originally posted by JaguarMike
These were all good points, made sense to me. I especially enjoyed the part about playing into realities. You wanna elaborate on that?

If you're talkin' about what i said... sure... I'll delve a little bit into it.

Here's the thing, you played a part in their 'play' -- ie, you just being a backdrop/supporting character instead of taking the lead of the 'show'.... get it?

Be the person who shows control of their frame of reality because females strive to take control whenever they see the chance. Its a test to see if you're really a man (sometimes they don't even know they're doing it).

You should already know that females think about multiple things at once -- they think (IMO) faster than us in terms of social dynamics.

I work with about 95% women (mostly middle-aged hags; some are cute girls around my age) in the workplace and I see and notice the little things they 'try' to get away w/me. luckily for me, it doesn't work because i'm in control of my frame (instead, I suck them into my reality, my muthaf'n world) -- I got a couple of my coworkers to buy me lunch for free believe it or not because of it.

Now, some girl across my desk will be cooking dinner for me soon (maybe this weekend).

The more you interact w/people in general -- you'll definitely get what I'm talkin' about.

EDIT:

Let me also add, the more ego the person has -- it can be a little difficult, but if you remain congruent and stand by what you are trying to get across; it'll be easier. Its hard to explain, but i'm sure there are other people in this board that get what I'm talkin' about (who has field tested this as well -- which works as long as you know what you're doin').

 

[JaguarMike]

thats a big topic I dont see too many people talking about on this board. Power roles/realities/worlds/etc. Pook has mentioned this and EVERYONE is glued to his topics. Instead of stupid bs we should focus on this reality/power issue more. thanks man.

 

[Jariel]

I can tell you something from my experience, since I have a bad habit of ruining relationships this year...

If a girl offloads her relationship problems on you, you're in the friendzone.

If a girl confesses not loving her boyfriend, not being attracted to him or things going stale, you're in with a great chance!

If she speaks negatively about the sex with her boyfriend, then she may well be looking for a fling with you.

If a girl mentions her boyfriend in passing conversation, it seems to mean that she's happy talking to you (she might even be attracted to you), but don't expect it to go further.

If you start chatting up a girl and she tells you outright she has a boyfriend, then you've just been shot down.