"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls make it hard to be a gentlemen these days

Francisco d'Anconia

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Rudra said:
The car doors concept is for helping chicks in high heels out of the car without her falling on her face.
Wouldn't it be easier to date women who are capable of walking upright on their own? :p
Rudra said:
Always good to get in some kino. You stretch out your hand, not your bent forearm. In the right context, good move. But not an everyday standard
I'll stick with keeping my hand up her skirt while driving. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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KarmaSutra said:
I would expect this fvcking garbage from LMS or 'Cisco. Some guys in thier forties and older think they're owed something because they've been around a few extra decades. Problem is it only gets them closer to Geritol iv's and bedpans.....
And we all know about your expectations... :rolleyes:
 

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Wow lotsa inputs on this!

Well I was raised in Europe (France) and we're not exactly perfect gentlemen but we do have certain values we hold up to and acts of politeness.

I used to maintain those values until I just kept getting burned from my past relationships with girls raised in California especially. They wore me down to the point I just want to treat girls with little consideration. It's unfortunate because I feel a part of me has been suppressed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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KarmaSutra said:
I would expect this fvcking garbage from LMS or 'Cisco. Some guys in thier forties and older think they're owed something because they've been around a few extra decades.
I actually open doors for women...the refrigerator door so that they can make me a sandwich!! :rolleyes:

Truthfully, I open non car doors for men and women out of courtesy.

Relating to car doors, since I have a wireless car door opener now I just press a button!

What Bonez said is true ... it is a supplicating traditional taught custom.. but since women are no longer "traditional" then the custom no longer applies!
 

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Frenchconnection said:
I used to open car doors and be more courteous ect. but after doing that for a while and getting nothing but sh*t. I just can't see myself genuinly doing it for chicks unless they're special and have earned it.

Sad but true..


Anybody else?

and I'm not talking about going the extra miles, just doing things as a gentlemen would do.
Granted a lot of women make it difficult for us to want to show respect in that way to a woman.

But some don't.

I dated a woman who would reach over and unlock my car door for me after I held the car door open for her. Those are usually some good women that make it worth while.

But I still do it anyway. I want to walk women to ther cars, even if it doesn't get me anything, because I know that a woman is more protected. I'd offer to do this with platonic female friends.

Sometimes a girlfriend or wife (or husband) doesn't really "deserve" something, but you do something nice for them because you love them or respect them.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Being gentlemanly has nothing to do with getting her approval or attention. It's about having principles which you adhere to no matter what the situation.
I didn't know there were reasons to have principles for absolutely no reason.
 

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girl_in_a_boy_forum said:
What do these girls do to you? Do they ignore you or are they rude?

I always appreciate if someone--male or female--holds a door open for me, helps me pick up something I dropped, etc. I think those are decent human things to do, and I try to do those in turn.

You could stop being kind, if people give you a negative reaction. But your actions reflect your character; what do you have to lose by being polite? Just my take, anyway.
I actually feel off my chair laughing like a mad man after I saw that youtube video link in your post!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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