"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How old they are. Yes, it's that simple. I’ll elaborate.

Today, my friends (some girls, some guys) went to a water park.

So my buddy and I split with the group and head towards the slides.

While in line a few girls get in line (while we’re waiting further up)

I said, “Dude, that girl in the green is hot!” (HB 9 with a few HB 7-8s)

He said she was too young. We debated.

-The girl had pretty large breasts, that was my strongest point.

-She had a very innocent face (attrative too.) This was his main point.

So the girls notice us looking and are interested but due to the situation (uncertainty)

--I wouldn't approach.

So we go down the slide, grab a friend (male) and ask his opinion.

He’s with me. So we’re all hyped and we make a bet.

If she’s 15 or older we win the pool. If she’s 14 or younger he wins.

First, we grab his girlfriend and she says she’s atleast 16, probably 17 or 18.

I tell him (in private) that it’s because of his mental block (he has a girlfriend)

That he subconsciencly (psychologically) convinced himself that she was too young.

I asked how she was--she said, “Let me think about it...I’m 17. How old are you?”

Seventeen was good enough for me (I’m seventeen.)

I got her number.

I have a hot date coming up.

I have thirty bucks to pay for it (am I cheap?)

Tell a girl you were confused.

That you thought that she might be younger than she was

(by saying she had innocent facial features)

. . .and you're golden.

Strange approach, but it was fun and flattering. Worked for me, so you might as well try it. :woo:
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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interesting idea, i guess. not sure if i'll use it, tho ;)


I have thirty bucks to pay for it (am I cheap?)
you're pushing it, man. Don't feel like you have to spend a bunch of money on someone to make them like you.
 

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flattery at it's best, but i'm surprised it worked on such a young girl.
 

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30 dollars enough? FOR A FIRST DATE?

Ive never spent money on a girl. NEVER. They spend money on me!

I usually just kick it with em in my bedroom on my 4,000 dollar bed and fourplay with em on first dates....oh and if ur wondering i only date girls older than 18. (im 19)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You're my hero Dondan. I like going to the movies for first dates. It can be expensive.

Factor in:

Tickets (8$)

Gas (5$)

Snacks (7$)

We're looking at around thirty dollars for the both of us.

Besides, it's not like I worked for this money. I just won a bet :crazy: .

Sometimes I let the girl pull some weight, but not HB 9s lol.
 

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Sometimes I let the girl pull some weight, but not HB 9s
bad mindset. Granted, you're the one who invited her out so it's not inconceivable to pay for her, but you should try to keep things cheap if you're gonna be paying. (eg: coffee, ice cream, or a cheap restaurant)

And movies for first dates aren't real great, imo.
 

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I love movies for first date.

Girls like me. My job is to not screw it up. A silent date is an easy date.

Not only that, they get bored. When they become bored they want excitement.

Icing. On. The. Cake.

I hear you, respect your opinion, but lets agree to disagree.
 

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Movie for a first date? Shouldnt it be something else, where u guys just arent sitting side by side not talking and watching a movie when u first meet? like 1 on 1 ... in ur room... or wateva
 

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Right, I mean date though. Like going out. My room (or her room...a* room) comes first, but it's no date.

In fact, I wouldn't call a starbucks meeting a date either. I'm just wierd like that though.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It wasn't that it was flattering that she looked younger - girls at that age generally want to appear older. Your success so far was probably because you were qualifying her. Your frame was that she might not be old enough for you, so you showed your have options and criteria.

Similarly, when I was getting to know my gf I wasn't sure if she was too young. I am 38, and she looked about 22 to me. A 22 year old hottie might still be an immature party girl/drama queen, so I was wary. Turned out she was 28 (asians age well!), and when I told her about my concerns it demonstrated the same qualifying attitude, and she found that very sexy.
 
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