still the one
Don Juan
I have a problem, the interest level in the girl i have been seeing for a while is starting to fall. What are some things i could do to stop or even reverse it because i really like her?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls interest level in me falling. What can i do?
- Thread starter still the one
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You're not really going in depth to how you are acting towards her, etc. so we can't be sure what you're doing wrong.
Avoid overexposure with the girl, maybe you're starting to become too clingy or act too interested. Remember, being a Don Juan isn't only about making the pickup, it's also about the ability to keep the girl.
Remember why this girl became attracted to you in the first place, don't slack and let those qualities fade away.
Avoid overexposure with the girl, maybe you're starting to become too clingy or act too interested. Remember, being a Don Juan isn't only about making the pickup, it's also about the ability to keep the girl.
Remember why this girl became attracted to you in the first place, don't slack and let those qualities fade away.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
damn it, read the bible son! this is the biggest reason there is a bible!
-noone else respond until mr. one tells us which article helped him best from the bible- if he even still needs help.
-noone else respond until mr. one tells us which article helped him best from the bible- if he even still needs help.
still the one
Don Juan
I agree with Kraken that being a dj is also about keeping the girl as well and this is something i probably have not been doing very well. I also think i might be acting too interested in her and becoming a bit clingy as well. I'm going to have a look at the bible and do some searches and come back and do as iqqi suggested.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The easiest solution is simple. Be busy (or at least pretend to be) and let her see that she is no longer your priority. She will be calling you and asking you to go out and do things in no time. It never fails.
Plus, if you can show her that other girls are after you without making it obvious you're trying to make her jealous, that gets them everytime. Girls are very reactive to wanting what they can't have and want what others want. You ever wonder why girls tend to like guys who already have girlfriends? They want what they can't have.
So just do your own thing and put her on the backburner then sit back and wait for attempts to win you over again. Go out and talk to other chicks while keeping busy from her too. That always helps.
Plus, if you can show her that other girls are after you without making it obvious you're trying to make her jealous, that gets them everytime. Girls are very reactive to wanting what they can't have and want what others want. You ever wonder why girls tend to like guys who already have girlfriends? They want what they can't have.
So just do your own thing and put her on the backburner then sit back and wait for attempts to win you over again. Go out and talk to other chicks while keeping busy from her too. That always helps.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Be a man bro, just be a man!! If you don't know how then read article on being a man , in the DJ bible!
Player_Supreme
Banned
do nothing...
just have some self respect... if u haven't that yet. If her IL is decreasing, you aren't able to do ANYTHING to increase it... Don't believe in "Be busy..or similar ****", you'll just make worse.
I guess you probably've done something, that made her IL to decrease (yes, that may be "too clingy" "too much interest"... in concrete - no common sense, of what's too far.).
Whole year I've studied DJ system, went through all possible "stages of mindset", and I see now how misleading is all this... I suggest you reading SW101, than DJ bible. if you don't have short attention span. Of course it's your choise, but you'd save time (even, A LOT of time).
BTW. who'll try to start a flame on this, don't bother. whole year I was struggling with DJ system, it has seemed like some miracles, just... I didn't get any ***** (as more than half "theoreticians", who sits here..). Then I found SW101, and "wuala", results appeared afer ONE (just one f*ckin' week, of a little patience reading D's stuff in her writing style..) week.
and results were ****in' awesome..
just have some self respect... if u haven't that yet. If her IL is decreasing, you aren't able to do ANYTHING to increase it... Don't believe in "Be busy..or similar ****", you'll just make worse.
I guess you probably've done something, that made her IL to decrease (yes, that may be "too clingy" "too much interest"... in concrete - no common sense, of what's too far.).
Whole year I've studied DJ system, went through all possible "stages of mindset", and I see now how misleading is all this... I suggest you reading SW101, than DJ bible. if you don't have short attention span. Of course it's your choise, but you'd save time (even, A LOT of time).
BTW. who'll try to start a flame on this, don't bother. whole year I was struggling with DJ system, it has seemed like some miracles, just... I didn't get any ***** (as more than half "theoreticians", who sits here..). Then I found SW101, and "wuala", results appeared afer ONE (just one f*ckin' week, of a little patience reading D's stuff in her writing style..) week.
and results were ****in' awesome..“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.