still the one
Don Juan
I have a problem, the interest level in the girl i have been seeing for a while is starting to fall. What are some things i could do to stop or even reverse it because i really like her?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girls interest level in me falling. What can i do?
- Thread starter still the one
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You're not really going in depth to how you are acting towards her, etc. so we can't be sure what you're doing wrong.
Avoid overexposure with the girl, maybe you're starting to become too clingy or act too interested. Remember, being a Don Juan isn't only about making the pickup, it's also about the ability to keep the girl.
Remember why this girl became attracted to you in the first place, don't slack and let those qualities fade away.
Avoid overexposure with the girl, maybe you're starting to become too clingy or act too interested. Remember, being a Don Juan isn't only about making the pickup, it's also about the ability to keep the girl.
Remember why this girl became attracted to you in the first place, don't slack and let those qualities fade away.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
damn it, read the bible son! this is the biggest reason there is a bible!
-noone else respond until mr. one tells us which article helped him best from the bible- if he even still needs help.
-noone else respond until mr. one tells us which article helped him best from the bible- if he even still needs help.
still the one
Don Juan
I agree with Kraken that being a dj is also about keeping the girl as well and this is something i probably have not been doing very well. I also think i might be acting too interested in her and becoming a bit clingy as well. I'm going to have a look at the bible and do some searches and come back and do as iqqi suggested.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The easiest solution is simple. Be busy (or at least pretend to be) and let her see that she is no longer your priority. She will be calling you and asking you to go out and do things in no time. It never fails.
Plus, if you can show her that other girls are after you without making it obvious you're trying to make her jealous, that gets them everytime. Girls are very reactive to wanting what they can't have and want what others want. You ever wonder why girls tend to like guys who already have girlfriends? They want what they can't have.
So just do your own thing and put her on the backburner then sit back and wait for attempts to win you over again. Go out and talk to other chicks while keeping busy from her too. That always helps.
Plus, if you can show her that other girls are after you without making it obvious you're trying to make her jealous, that gets them everytime. Girls are very reactive to wanting what they can't have and want what others want. You ever wonder why girls tend to like guys who already have girlfriends? They want what they can't have.
So just do your own thing and put her on the backburner then sit back and wait for attempts to win you over again. Go out and talk to other chicks while keeping busy from her too. That always helps.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Be a man bro, just be a man!! If you don't know how then read article on being a man , in the DJ bible!
Player_Supreme
Banned
do nothing...
just have some self respect... if u haven't that yet. If her IL is decreasing, you aren't able to do ANYTHING to increase it... Don't believe in "Be busy..or similar ****", you'll just make worse.
I guess you probably've done something, that made her IL to decrease (yes, that may be "too clingy" "too much interest"... in concrete - no common sense, of what's too far.).
Whole year I've studied DJ system, went through all possible "stages of mindset", and I see now how misleading is all this... I suggest you reading SW101, than DJ bible. if you don't have short attention span. Of course it's your choise, but you'd save time (even, A LOT of time).
BTW. who'll try to start a flame on this, don't bother. whole year I was struggling with DJ system, it has seemed like some miracles, just... I didn't get any ***** (as more than half "theoreticians", who sits here..). Then I found SW101, and "wuala", results appeared afer ONE (just one f*ckin' week, of a little patience reading D's stuff in her writing style..) week.
and results were ****in' awesome..
just have some self respect... if u haven't that yet. If her IL is decreasing, you aren't able to do ANYTHING to increase it... Don't believe in "Be busy..or similar ****", you'll just make worse.
I guess you probably've done something, that made her IL to decrease (yes, that may be "too clingy" "too much interest"... in concrete - no common sense, of what's too far.).
Whole year I've studied DJ system, went through all possible "stages of mindset", and I see now how misleading is all this... I suggest you reading SW101, than DJ bible. if you don't have short attention span. Of course it's your choise, but you'd save time (even, A LOT of time).
BTW. who'll try to start a flame on this, don't bother. whole year I was struggling with DJ system, it has seemed like some miracles, just... I didn't get any ***** (as more than half "theoreticians", who sits here..). Then I found SW101, and "wuala", results appeared afer ONE (just one f*ckin' week, of a little patience reading D's stuff in her writing style..) week.
and results were ****in' awesome.."She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.