"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Girls in your class..who sit next to you

Babnik

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 24, 2006
Messages
783
Reaction score
1
Doesn't it seem real awkward to be dating a girl who you get to see 2-3 times a week in your classroom and she also sits next to you?

It makes you available at set times and it just tends to kill my game because they always start talking to me.

What do you do in this case? Move to another end of the room?

I tried that, but they catch me AFTER class...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

The Bartender

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2004
Messages
247
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Michigan
You're complaining about chicks talking to you in class and after class? :cry:
 

Wolves

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2006
Messages
25
Reaction score
2
Lol what are you afraid of? How is it gonna "kill your game" if a girl you're dating talks to you... unless you're trying to pick up other girls in that class I don't see how its a problem lol.
 

Babnik

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 24, 2006
Messages
783
Reaction score
1
Luke!! said:
The one thing bad i can get bad from it is that attraction can be lost much more quickly. Talking, Talking, Talking. Someone is bound to lose attraction their. If not you she will.
THANK YOU!
 

Dash Ravishing

New Member
Joined
Feb 8, 2007
Messages
1
Reaction score
0
Seeing her more = more work on your part to keep her interested

-Dash Ravishing, hero
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Babnik

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 24, 2006
Messages
783
Reaction score
1
superchill89 said:
wtf why would she lose attraction just because you talk to her more... that's retarded, it's not like you are calling her constantly you just happen to be sitting next to her in class. why can't you just use it as an opportunity to make her more attracted?


Understand that a girl needs time to miss you and think about you and not have you any time she wants.
 

Plec07

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 3, 2006
Messages
383
Reaction score
7
Location
Berkshire, England
Couldn't have said it better myself Luke.

To the OP you could try focusing more on your work but try not to convay yourself as boring while doing so.
 
Joined
Nov 8, 2005
Messages
867
Reaction score
2
Location
***** palace
AHHH AFCs stop giving advice you prob don't even talk to girls during class to understand what kind of situation the thread starter is in. I had the exact same problem, I would talk to girls in class they would show IOI and stuff. But because I would see them every single day it's hard to keep the attraction high. That's why you should either avoid her don't be rude but just talking to other girls or friends in class instead of her. Also if your in highschool/college goin for chicks in the same class is pretty bad cuz if you screw up then you have to deal with seein her everyday! Nothin is worse then getting rejected in the first month of school then having to sit next to the girl for the rest of the year! lol

Personally I think dating girls at work or school especially the same class is a BAD IDEA, cuz you still have to see her and deal with drama. That's why you should see ppl outside of work/school so you can have some privacy.

Well that said it's possible to keep the attraction high by being fun to be around during class. Instead of talking to her one on one have your friend help you and have a huge group talk with everyone. That's what I do and it works for me.
 

Jack-Torrance

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2007
Messages
123
Reaction score
1
FANTASTIC Reply, I've had the same problem, I just never act predictable, it's predictability that bores girls not conversation...

But hell yeah it's hard maintaining it for so long...
 

The Shocker

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 28, 2006
Messages
418
Reaction score
1
Location
With my parents
agreed with those saying it becomes more difficult, it does. THe person who made the song analogy, nice job.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Top