"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nick999

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I am not the man who frequently go out for night life before. However, recently I divorced and then I moved from my home country in Asia to a small city in Sweden to start my new job here. Last weekend I had nothing to do and then I went to a pub alone. Like most other places, the pub was rather crowded in the weekend night and the DJ and music was not bad also. I danced in the crowd for a while (like most people, my dancing skill is just so so). Without any sign, there was a girl suddenly coming from the crowd, holding my hand and hugging me. The girl is pretty and I hugged her also ( she did not look drunk). We hugged together and danced for about 2 minutes. And then she suddenly turned around and left. All these came so suddenly so I have not prepared at all. When I realized that maybe I should follow her, I cannot find her any more.

I am not sure what did she mean. Does that mean she like me? or just for fun (maybe there is not other Asia guys in the city)? If this happens again, what do you think I should do at that moment? I am totally a noob so I will be very appreciated for any suggestion.

BTW, I pay attention on my appearance and I also used Armani spray that day. (I am not smell) ;)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NobodyCares1

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maybe she thought you were someone else, or she was someone you introduced yourself sometime in the past but don't remember, happened to me because I often introduce myself to people when I'm drunk
 

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Well, maybe, but there are quite few Asia people here in this town, so I guess it shouldn't be that easy to make a mistake? And also I just came to this town and haven't introduced myself to people besides colleagues. I am really confused.
 

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nick999 said:
Without any sign, there was a girl suddenly coming from the crowd, holding my hand and hugging me. The girl is pretty and I hugged her also ( she did not look drunk). We hugged together and danced for about 2 minutes. And then she suddenly turned around and left.

Haha, man this made my day. Thanks for the laugh..

It honestly could be anything and any reason.. I wouldn't think too much into it.. All you should be saying is yea.. I'm the sh!t, that's right.
 

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if a woman comes out of nowhere and starts getting that close and personal with you, she is up for it, you didnt respond, how obvious does a come on I want your meat inside of me have to be?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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betheman said:
if a woman comes out of nowhere and starts getting that close and personal with you, she is up for it, you didnt respond, how obvious does a come on I want your meat inside of me have to be?
Well if that had been me, I'd have been so drunken, I probably wouldn't have been stand up properly, never mind trying to park my beef bus in her tuna town.
 

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Lesson learned. Next time, start talking, remove her from the dance floor, see what she's all about. She could be a girl who wants some sex that night, she can be a prostitute, you just don't know. Keep it fun and see where the ride takes you. No need to be nervous. Be cool and treat whatever happens with indifference.
 

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Do you know that sometimes you want to go and say “hi” and the little voice in your head starts with the rant? “Who do you think you are?” “She is not going to give you the time of the day” “You are heading for disaster” “You are going to be embarrassed and humiliated”… and on and on. Suddenly you are paralyzed and the girl is gone.
My advice for you, next time start talking, try to find out things about her, make her compliments, but do something!!
 
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