"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girls get cold if you don't take action?

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Lets you say you attract someone, and yet you do not procede to ask her out because you are not really interest.

So, the girl tries to get your attention but you resist.

Then, she grows cold...and THEN when you ask her out she doesn't seem to be excisted or interested.

Shouldn't girls get even MORE interested if you don't act interested?

Lets take this particular case. I meet a girl, she asks my name and immediately says "Will you go with me...somewhere?" and I never had a reaction like that so I kind of ignroe that comment.

Now, a few weeks later she dresses up and does her hair so well and spikes interest in me. Everyone comments on her hair and etc, EXCEPT for me. I pretend I didn't notice it.

Now, I asked her out today and she said "OK" but she just wasn't excited about it...at all.


Another thing is that:
1. You shouldn't WAIT EVER UNTIL THE END to ask a girl out or ask for her number IF she conversation is going good. Meaning, you have to catch the moment of a good conversation and ask THEN. It doesn't have to be in the end when you part!

2. Ask a girl out upon first meeting her because it feels more awkward later AND unless you do ask them right there right then - they LOSE interest contrary to what people say that it only makes them want you more. It DOESN'T if they are alerady actrated to you.

3. I think the whole disinterest is needed ONLY to attract. If you attracted her already, disinterest will only make her cold.

4. Girls love smiles and sweetness. They are so much more responsive and willing to go out when you say "I really like talking to you, lets hang out sometime *smile*" rather than a cold "lets hang out sometime"

5. You can tell when its OK to do what a girl wants. Lets say she invites you over somewhere and you say "No, I have plans. Let change the date" and then she can't come and in the end you do not go anywhere. Once again, saying "No, I have plans" can help in attracting a lady but also disappoint and make her lose interest if she is ALREADY attracted.

Anyone agree?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You were playing hard to get and then you just throw that out the window, that can cause lost of attraction if you're already playing hard to get you need to keep it all the way to the point where you have sex and even when the sex comes it should feel like she worked for it. You just asked her out which through everything you was doing before out the window.
 
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Distant Light said:
You were playing hard to get and then you just throw that out the window, that can cause lost of attraction if you're already playing hard to get you need to keep it all the way to the point where you have sex and even when the sex comes it should feel like she worked for it. You just asked her out which through everything you was doing before out the window.
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Er...if I wouldn't ask her out or wouldn't do anything - she wouldn't call either.

I mean, if you act hard to get and never let it have her way - NOTHING will happen. How do you end up hanging out then? YEARS? Playing hard to get is an excuse not to get it anywhere at all and just next the girl.

Its been like 2 months ago ever since she asked me out herself and I didn't respond. She didn't do anything ever since then until I asked her out.

I mean, you expect a girl to jump on you in class and have sex? If she asks out again, then do you say YES?

Besides, you are supposed to set a date yourself and that means asking out.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Babnik said:
...Anyone agree?
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These things go against several sarging rules including:

  • Not acting too interested
  • Not waiting several days to ask her out
  • Noticing that she is already interested in you and forgoing attraction rules

WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING MAN??!!

Crazy talk like that just may make you successful! :up:
 
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Lets take this particular case. I meet a girl, she asks my name and immediately says "Will you go with me...somewhere?" and I never had a reaction like that so I kind of ignroe that comment.

Now, a few weeks later she dresses up and does her hair so well and spikes interest in me. Everyone comments on her hair and etc, EXCEPT for me. I pretend I didn't notice it.

Now, I asked her out today and she said "OK" but she just wasn't excited about it...at all.
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Not usually, she tried to get your attention, and nothing came of it, so she kinda gave up. Then when you did ask her out.. she's not excited because the iron got cold.

No brainer really, you waited too long...so it's probably a good idea to start re-building attraction NOW.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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People take "being a challenge" and turn it into "being impossible". You weren't playing hard to get, you were just being an ass and totally blowing off her attempts to communicate with you and further your interactions.

And I swear I made this same post on a thread just a few days ago... apparently people don't search or read around before they make threads...
 
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Of course she's going to get cold, man. What if someone told you they'd give you fifty bucks? You'd be happy right? Let's say that you tried to collect and then they told you to fvck off? You'd be cold to them, right? Of course.

You offered this girl something, then told her to get lost. Why would she possibly stick around for more teasing?
 
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Playing hard to get is for building attraction.

When attraction is already there. Skip building attraction and go to ask number.

There are some steps that you can avoid if there is already certain things there.

Case Example 1:

I walk a girl named "Rebecca" to the playground (got lost on the way to the supermarket), but I already had a girlfriend. She was a good six with a level ten personality. I could not do anything so i let the iron get cold. I lost her after doing this again because I never made that move because of my relationship already.

Case Example 2:
I just broke up with my girlfriend and I was looking to go find a new girl. I already knew that my swing dancing partner was available. She wanted to go out with someone and that person was me. I call her up and we hang out. The iron is still hot (so to speak). I leaned over and grabbed her shoulder and made my move. I started to make-out. So I am now seeing her.

Notice the two case studies, when the iron is hot I did two dfferent reactions and got two different results entirely.

In the first one, I lost her completely. We talk cordially, but she won't hang out anymore. The second, I struck while the iron was hot and won her over. There is a big difference between the two.

I have a rule that I follow. If a girl is interested in you, after two dates alone and you don't make a move, than she will leave.

TAKE ACTION AND SEIZE THE MOMENT!!!

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