"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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girls friend embarrases her......

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well today after 7th period i was walking pretending not to notice the gilr i like, she calls my name and we start talking, just about when we start to go downstairs her friend pulls on my backpack and takes me aside and ask's me if i like her friend, i respond with "i like her as a friend". and she says "well she likes you a lot more than just a friend" now as she is saying the other girl comes back and hears what she says. she blushes and starts saying stuff about this being embarrasing.

now she is angry with this girl. now i've come to the knowledge that all of her friends knew that she likes me.

now is she embarassed that she likes me, or the fact that her friend told me in front of her face.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i already flirt with her, but i was thinking that i should take her aside tommorrow and ask her to homecoming.

i'm a senior and she is a sophmore btw, do you think thats weird?

but i am 16, and she is 15, we both have birthdays in october however. so the only big difference is the grade level
 

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instead of calling this a problem (it isn't) you should just look at the situation and appreciate it. I always think it's kind of cute/funny when this happens to me (girl gets all embarrassed because her friend blurted out her "secret"). I can bet you that this girl you like is at least a little relieved that she didn't have to directly confess to you her feelings. Roll with it son:cool:

Oh and don't worry about the age difference. If you're okay with it, then do it
 

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her friend didn't accidentally blurt it out, she said it just to make her embarrased
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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you like her, she likes you. you + her = babies

math is educational and fun!

go for it bud
 

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i have a problem now, iwas going to aske her to homecoming today, but right when she saw me this is what she said "do you think that I like you?" and said "well thats what your friend said yesterday" and then she said that her friend was lying. she said that her friend didn't like the guy that she is going to homecoming with so she was trying to hook her up with some other guys.

then she asked me "everything is good now right, no more awkwardness right?"

and i said "i guess"

now i feel sad, and that i've lost my chance.
 

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personally, i would have just said. "that's too bad"

that way, if she actually does like you and was just too embarrassed to admit it, she now will. if not, you don't lose anything
 

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That sucks vaan. I think she's telling the truth or else she wouldn't have gotten out of her way to do that (unless she REALLY likes you and is really shy about it)

Go to the dance with someone else....see if she gets jealous at all and just go from there. Move on for now tho
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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she also kinda "forces" me to walk with her after 2nd and 7th period, so i can't exactly avoid her either.

ex: when we walk together she "locks" her arm with mine like a couple would >_>. and if i try to walk away she'll grab my arm with both hands and pull me.

weird i know.

like today she dragged me into a ground of some of her friends and i tried to walk away she would grab tighter and tighter. and i then would drag her across te hallway.

i took these as signs of interest, thats why i believed her friend.
 

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Besides doing what I said earlier, you could also talk to her friends and ask them about it.....
 
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