"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls find me....adorable?

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I don't like calling it a problem because I seem like a jackass if I do.

But it seems like I attract women in a wrong sense, you know? I don't find it a problem, but I'm pretty short (5'3) and most girls at school find me adorable. They like to be around me, hold me, etc. But I don't think they'd consider dating me. I have ****y-funny down to a T, people find me hilarious and i've been told to have an attractive personality, but It feels like I'm insta friend zoned because of my size.

help?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Les Savy said:
I don't like calling it a problem because I seem like a jackass if I do.
It's ok to call it a "problem" because that's what it is.


You're "spider sense" or that is your ability to sense that something is "off" when you deal with girls is working well.

Les Savy said:
But it seems like I attract women in a wrong sense, you know?
I know EXACTLY what you mean.

The problem is that you have something missing in your interacting with girls,and the thing that's missing is you letting the girls know that you're interested in them.



Les Savy said:
I don't find it a problem, but I'm pretty short (5'3) and most girls at school find me adorable. They like to be around me, hold me, etc. But I don't think they'd consider dating me.
The problem is that you're acting like more of a friend to these girls than acting like a MAN. They think you're cute and adorable,the same way they would a cute little puppy.


There's no sexual attraction present,but cuteness and adorableness.



Les savy said:
I have ****y-funny down to a T,
****y-funny is like a bridge. It's just meant to help you get from one place to another.


****y-funny IS NOT the goal. The goal is to DATE the girl. ****y-funny is just supposed to help you out along the way.



So ****y-funny itself is not enough. You have to use the ****y-funny for a little while,then ask her out.




You HAVE TO ask the girl out evenutually. Just being ****y-funny over and over again WITHOUT asking her out will lead you to friendzone city.


Les savy said:
It feels like I'm insta friend zoned because of my size.
I doubt it's because of your size. It's more likely because you have no flirtiness,no sexualness added to your ****yfunniness.



The best way would be for you to give us an example of what you say to girls when you try to get them interested in you.



If we can see what it is you say to them,we should be able to see where the problem is and help you out.
 

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Haha, I guess you're right. I have no idea how to get them to know that i'm into them.
 

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You're gonna have a rough road ahead of you, because highschoolers tend to pigeonhole people into a certain personality type. So you're probably known as the "adorable one" - i.e. the guy that every girl likes hanging out with as a friend but not the one that girls want to date.

You're going to have to start becoming really forward with girls and at first there's going to be a ton of friction; not only are you trying to change yourself but you're also trying to change others' perceptions of you and the latter is actually going to be much more difficult in this case. If you keep with it though they'll be forced to change, so just stay the course.

What's your girl/guy ratio like in friends?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you become more forward?
 
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