Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls constantly look down when I pass them?

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Why does this happen 80% of the time?

I take a 8 minute long walk to get to my lectures in the mornings and after noons and I walk past dozens of girls on the way. 4 of the will look away, to the right, to the left or beyond me and 8 of them will look down.

I walk with great posture - better than it ever was - I don't stare, but I give a nice smile ....

It gets on my nerves a bit, because I usually feel happy when someone smiles back at me and tend to have a better day.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dr. Dawg said:
Why does this happen 80% of the time?

I take a 8 minute long walk to get to my lectures in the mornings and after noons and I walk past dozens of girls on the way. 4 of the will look away, to the right, to the left or beyond me and 8 of them will look down.

I walk with great posture - better than it ever was - I don't stare, but I give a nice smile ....

It gets on my nerves a bit, because I usually feel happy when someone smiles back at me and tend to have a better day.
they're shy and don't know how to handle eye contact. i notice women 28+ smile with eye contact. college girls are different.
 

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applegoo said:
they're shy and don't know how to handle eye contact. i notice women 28+ smile with eye contact. college girls are different.
I guessed so .... however yesterday I did get a smile from a girl ... like an idiot I didn't look back to see if she would :(
 

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If you get a smile from a cute girl, you HAVE to say hi.

Otherwise, yes everyone is correct. If they look away they are probably not interested, looking down they are shy.

Don't be afraid to make and hold eye contact. I do it all the time. Let her catch you looking. Then if she smiles or whatever, approach.
 

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Looking down is a submissive move. I'd bet money on them being attracted to you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Instead of just looking at them, try saying something pleasant.
 

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Usually when they break eye contact first this is submissive which is a good sign. I wouldn't worry about it, try throwing them a small smirk with they make eye contact and if they smirk and look away or nervously look away you're good.

Its when they give you the stink eye or give you the "youre a creeper" look back at you is when you have a problem.
 

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Dgwizdal said:
Usually when they break eye contact first this is submissive which is a good sign. I wouldn't worry about it, try throwing them a small smirk with they make eye contact and if they smirk and look away or nervously look away you're good.

Its when they give you the stink eye or give you the "youre a creeper" look back at you is when you have a problem.
So 80% of the time these girls are attracted to me since they look down?

Ok ... I'm flattered.
 

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Dr. Dawg said:
So 80% of the time these girls are attracted to me since they look down?

Ok ... I'm flattered.
lol, i wouldn't go that far. you don't really know unless you approach.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dr. Dawg said:
So 80% of the time these girls are attracted to me since they look down?

Ok ... I'm flattered.
It sounds like you're looking for an ego boost either way, so what's the difference. If you're actually interested in hooking up with any of the girls you pass, you should talk to them.
 

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I wouldnt NECESSARILY say that they're attracted to you, although many of them might be. If you are well build, or tall, or your body language is very confident, then they will tend to look away to break the tension. I find this is more common with 7's and 8's and less common with 10's because the 10's will look you right in the eye.
 

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Yewki said:
It sounds like you're looking for an ego boost either way, so what's the difference. If you're actually interested in hooking up with any of the girls you pass, you should talk to them.
Nope I'm not, I'm intrigued with the number of girls this happens with.
 

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gravityeyelids said:
I wouldnt NECESSARILY say that they're attracted to you, although many of them might be. If you are well build, or tall, or your body language is very confident, then they will tend to look away to break the tension. I find this is more common with 7's and 8's and less common with 10's because the 10's will look you right in the eye.
I'm tall, skinny (but not like a stick) and I guess my body language is top mark, I mean I've been focusing on improving it and I think it has.

A cute girl looked me dead in the eye and she wasn't a 10.

I don't go for 10s, phwark that.
 

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MidnightCity said:
looking down/avoiding eye contact is normal behavior in mammals to show submissiveness.

dont misconstrue things. if a is submissive to you it doesnt necessarily mean shes attracted to you. but its a good sign if a girl that likes you is submissive. do a quick search on the question "its hard to make eye contact with my boyfriend" or something similar and see for yourself.

a womans natural state around a man is/should be submissive.
Wait so if I'm in a bar/club situation and I'm scanning the room, like I do, and happen to make eye contact with a random girl and she looks down immediately, what does that mean?

Usually, like the dumbo I am, I would take that as a lack of interest and move on to new heights.

I've had girlfriends who would constantly stare at me at least 60% of the time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This happens to me alot also but in most cases, we first make eye contact for a second from afar, then she looks down, and just when we about to walk past each other she'll give me another quick glance and look away again. And that's when I go in

For me the second glance usually confirms if she likes me
 
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