"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girls asking lots of questions on a first date
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Personal questions - things I enjoy doing and details about that, also my opinions on certain things. Places I’ve been or want to go to, etc. idk, seemed like standard date question material to me.
Reason I ask is I’ve been on dates where a girl literally asks me no personal questions, however they end up showing high interest in other ways (I.e texting after the date to express they had a great time or what not). And pursuing me for further dates. Personally, I like a girl who asks questions since it seems they are more engaged and you can vibe with them a little better.
At one point on the date she actually asked me if I’ve been on many dates from the OLD source we met on. I just said “oh a couple” and quickly changed the subject on her.
8-9/10 she is, in my book. Definitely want to see her again and she said she’s free Saturday.
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I take it as a good indicator, she serious about getting to know you.
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I'd say she's interested and is also looking for a reason to ditch you. Tell her that certain questions are classified level girlfriend or whatnot.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lol - agreed, don’t want to waste the opportunity. On the date we talked about a bar we both had been to nearby my house and how we should go sometime. At the dates end, I did something I never do on first dates, and said if she’s free on Saturday, we should go checkout that place together. She sounded keen on the idea, but I left it at that and we went separate ways for the night.
Thinking about just calling her up on Friday afternoon to see if the following evening still would work out. Whatdya think?
Very clever.
Aside to OP, each time a woman asks me lots of questions, I'll take that as an indication of her being highly attracted to me and thus it spikes her curiosity.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ok, planning to just call her Friday afternoon. I’m not in any rush and she works long nursing shifts I’ll let some time pass if that’s a decent idea
Letting you know. Had second date Friday evening - ended up back at my place and hooked up. She said she was glad that I ****ed her. So I think it was a sign of interest in this case.