"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girls asking lots of questions on a first date
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Personal questions - things I enjoy doing and details about that, also my opinions on certain things. Places I’ve been or want to go to, etc. idk, seemed like standard date question material to me.
Reason I ask is I’ve been on dates where a girl literally asks me no personal questions, however they end up showing high interest in other ways (I.e texting after the date to express they had a great time or what not). And pursuing me for further dates. Personally, I like a girl who asks questions since it seems they are more engaged and you can vibe with them a little better.
At one point on the date she actually asked me if I’ve been on many dates from the OLD source we met on. I just said “oh a couple” and quickly changed the subject on her.
8-9/10 she is, in my book. Definitely want to see her again and she said she’s free Saturday.
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I take it as a good indicator, she serious about getting to know you.
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I'd say she's interested and is also looking for a reason to ditch you. Tell her that certain questions are classified level girlfriend or whatnot.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Lol - agreed, don’t want to waste the opportunity. On the date we talked about a bar we both had been to nearby my house and how we should go sometime. At the dates end, I did something I never do on first dates, and said if she’s free on Saturday, we should go checkout that place together. She sounded keen on the idea, but I left it at that and we went separate ways for the night.
Thinking about just calling her up on Friday afternoon to see if the following evening still would work out. Whatdya think?
Very clever.
Aside to OP, each time a woman asks me lots of questions, I'll take that as an indication of her being highly attracted to me and thus it spikes her curiosity.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ok, planning to just call her Friday afternoon. I’m not in any rush and she works long nursing shifts I’ll let some time pass if that’s a decent idea
Letting you know. Had second date Friday evening - ended up back at my place and hooked up. She said she was glad that I ****ed her. So I think it was a sign of interest in this case.