Hey guys, Im doing pretty good right now with 4 girls on the go and a few more that I could give a run at. Anyways some have started to notice (ie text messages coming in, me always being busy doing something, too busy for them) that some have started to ask "are you a player" anyone have a good answer to that question.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girls asking "are you a player"
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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john paul
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Dont admit to being a player ever, even if you think you are. Admitting to being a player sounds cool to guys but no girl thinks its a good thing.
If you say yea im a player, even in a joking way she will either be turned off because she believes you or mock you later with her friends. Theres some self declared players at my high school who are made fun of becuase they think they are tight sh!t.
Just deny it.
"nah im not a player, i just keep a busy life"
its not witty or anything but it will come off as legit to her if you dont make it a joke. And hopefully she will stop wondering if you are.
nothing good can come from saying your a player so dont do it
If you say yea im a player, even in a joking way she will either be turned off because she believes you or mock you later with her friends. Theres some self declared players at my high school who are made fun of becuase they think they are tight sh!t.
Just deny it.
"nah im not a player, i just keep a busy life"
its not witty or anything but it will come off as legit to her if you dont make it a joke. And hopefully she will stop wondering if you are.
nothing good can come from saying your a player so dont do it
The best line that worked for me and it never failed me was:
Girl: "are you a player?"
Me: " I'm not a player but I got game..."
They are going to love that answer but once you lay that line you'r going to have to eventually back it up.
Girl: "are you a player?"
Me: " I'm not a player but I got game..."
They are going to love that answer but once you lay that line you'r going to have to eventually back it up.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Master Don Juan
Agreed. First off it goes beyond ****y cuz its arrogant and just plain big headed. Second, girls are just as afraid of getting played(if not more) like guys.john paul said:Dont admit to being a player ever, even if you think you are. Admitting to being a player sounds cool to guys but no girl thinks its a good thing.
If you say yea im a player, even in a joking way she will either be turned off because she believes you or mock you later with her friends. Theres some self declared players at my high school who are made fun of becuase they think they are tight sh!t.
Just deny it.
"nah im not a player, i just keep a busy life"
its not witty or anything but it will come off as legit to her if you dont make it a joke. And hopefully she will stop wondering if you are.
nothing good can come from saying your a player so dont do it
+1. Sounds like something that will work. Say it with a big smile, and don't try to be a smartass when saying it. How you say something is just as important as what you say. Many guys forget that, which is why witty comments and ****y humour does not work for them.DJDamage said:The best line that worked for me and it never failed me was:
Girl: "are you a player?"
Me: " I'm not a player but I got game..."
They are going to love that answer but once you lay that line you'r going to have to eventually back it up.
Saying it is as important as how you say it and how it flows out of your mouth.Axcell said:+1. Say it with a big smile, and don't try to be a smartass when saying it. How you say something is just as important as what you say. Many guys forget that, which is why witty comments and ****y humour does not work for them.
When you say stuff like "I'm not a player, but I got game" you got to be confident both in your delievery and in your demeanor. The first part "i"m not a player" you got to be serious and casual on this one but the second part you can be a little c0cky look her in the eye and watch for her reaction. She is probably going to smile/laugh (hopefully if you sounded convincing then not at you) and at which point you should do the same.
Fyi make sure you lower your voice in the end when you say "Game". I accidently one time raised my voice going from low pitched to high pitched in the end and it didn't sound like the word "game" and the girl started to laugh and say "what? did you say gay???". I was however able to repair the damage with my quick wit thankfuly so be careful of using canned lines if you are not a witty guy.
dont hate the player hate the game. No.....Im just in demand baby, busy, but I always make room for the good girls gone wild.
THIS IS A TEST PURE AND SIMPLE.............she is testing you.......dont scew it up.
possible responses:
-I'm not a player I am THE player
-Im not a player I am a PU artist
-what would make you say that, do I sound/act like a player (turn it around on them)
-whats your definition of a player, then use humor and rip on her answers
Dont fail the test........
THIS IS A TEST PURE AND SIMPLE.............she is testing you.......dont scew it up.
possible responses:
-I'm not a player I am THE player
-Im not a player I am a PU artist
-what would make you say that, do I sound/act like a player (turn it around on them)
-whats your definition of a player, then use humor and rip on her answers
Dont fail the test........
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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^^^ very true