"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls asking "are you a player"

mtlwlu

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Hey guys, Im doing pretty good right now with 4 girls on the go and a few more that I could give a run at. Anyways some have started to notice (ie text messages coming in, me always being busy doing something, too busy for them) that some have started to ask "are you a player" anyone have a good answer to that question.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ganondorf

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yes. I'm a playa yea it's true

But i'll change the game for you
 

john paul

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Dont admit to being a player ever, even if you think you are. Admitting to being a player sounds cool to guys but no girl thinks its a good thing.

If you say yea im a player, even in a joking way she will either be turned off because she believes you or mock you later with her friends. Theres some self declared players at my high school who are made fun of becuase they think they are tight sh!t.

Just deny it.
"nah im not a player, i just keep a busy life"
its not witty or anything but it will come off as legit to her if you dont make it a joke. And hopefully she will stop wondering if you are.


nothing good can come from saying your a player so dont do it
 

DJDamage

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The best line that worked for me and it never failed me was:

Girl: "are you a player?"

Me: " I'm not a player but I got game..."

They are going to love that answer but once you lay that line you'r going to have to eventually back it up.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rebound Material

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john paul said:
Dont admit to being a player ever, even if you think you are. Admitting to being a player sounds cool to guys but no girl thinks its a good thing.

If you say yea im a player, even in a joking way she will either be turned off because she believes you or mock you later with her friends. Theres some self declared players at my high school who are made fun of becuase they think they are tight sh!t.

Just deny it.
"nah im not a player, i just keep a busy life"
its not witty or anything but it will come off as legit to her if you dont make it a joke. And hopefully she will stop wondering if you are.


nothing good can come from saying your a player so dont do it
Agreed. First off it goes beyond ****y cuz its arrogant and just plain big headed. Second, girls are just as afraid of getting played(if not more) like guys.
 

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DJDamage said:
The best line that worked for me and it never failed me was:

Girl: "are you a player?"

Me: " I'm not a player but I got game..."

They are going to love that answer but once you lay that line you'r going to have to eventually back it up.
+1. Sounds like something that will work. Say it with a big smile, and don't try to be a smartass when saying it. How you say something is just as important as what you say. Many guys forget that, which is why witty comments and ****y humour does not work for them.
 

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Would James Bond tell just anyone he was a spy from MI6? Keep the playa persona on the DL
 

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Axcell said:
+1. Say it with a big smile, and don't try to be a smartass when saying it. How you say something is just as important as what you say. Many guys forget that, which is why witty comments and ****y humour does not work for them.
Saying it is as important as how you say it and how it flows out of your mouth.

When you say stuff like "I'm not a player, but I got game" you got to be confident both in your delievery and in your demeanor. The first part "i"m not a player" you got to be serious and casual on this one but the second part you can be a little c0cky look her in the eye and watch for her reaction. She is probably going to smile/laugh (hopefully if you sounded convincing then not at you) and at which point you should do the same.

Fyi make sure you lower your voice in the end when you say "Game". I accidently one time raised my voice going from low pitched to high pitched in the end and it didn't sound like the word "game" and the girl started to laugh and say "what? did you say gay???". I was however able to repair the damage with my quick wit thankfuly so be careful of using canned lines if you are not a witty guy.
 

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dont hate the player hate the game. No.....Im just in demand baby, busy, but I always make room for the good girls gone wild.

THIS IS A TEST PURE AND SIMPLE.............she is testing you.......dont scew it up.

possible responses:

-I'm not a player I am THE player
-Im not a player I am a PU artist
-what would make you say that, do I sound/act like a player (turn it around on them)
-whats your definition of a player, then use humor and rip on her answers


Dont fail the test........
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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