Girls are onto the "mutual breakup" stuff

[BlueAlpha1]

Anyone seen that stupid recent subway commercial where a dude walks in crying...

AFC: My girlfriend just broke up with me and I need something to make me feel better
girl walks in
HB: I just broke up with my boyfriend and I need something to celebrate with!
AFC: Bre? I thought it was mutual!
HB: Uhhh yeahh.....

Just like girls eventually caught on the PUA lines like "the cube", guys should be aware that there is another tactic that has run it's course, and that is the "I agree with the breakup, it's probably what's best" text. I saw someone just post about this and had to give me point of view.

This stupidity became popular when PUA salesmen were selling "get your ex back" classes for $49 and this text was designed to confuse your girl into thinking you didn't like her that much. This might have worked in 2006 before social media had sucked every last ounce of vulnerability away from the western woman. So NO - this doesn't work anymore. Your chick knows you and is down enough to dump you, so your dopey

"I agree" + 3 weeks NC + non-sequitir text = pitiful, and she knows it.

Girls have become so hardened that they are accustomed to every last trick in the book, including this attempted power-grab attempt to say "I didn't like you that much either". Sure, that's why you've been showering her with gifts for the last month because she was pulling away.

THE ONLY response is NO CONTACT. Your girl starts acting weird? Not a damn word right before or right after the breakup. That's the one and only thing that keep her guessing. Or dump her first. That's it.

 

[Alvafe]

or you could take it like it is and when she say we are better to break up, you agree, delete all her contacts and go out and date others girls.

its annoying tehy do this kind of thing? yes, but its also tells you how people are perceiving things now, before a guy breaking up with a girl was the girl did something wrong would feel bad and the guy would not care,
now the guy cry, in public, and the girl go out like little miss sunshine all happy like

pretty much this tells me there is a serious lack of male around for something like this even fly

so I guess you should be proud you at least have your balls in place

 

[Julian]

haha my ex tried putting on the tough girl act as a coping mechanism for the insanity and turmoil she was feeling inside. i dont blame her..we all do it...its truly hard to not care sometimes so you force yourself to pretend you dont care.

anyway i was pretty broken up about it for the first week...and i still have my moments but ive gone basically NC for the last month. moved 3 hours away, 2 weeks ago changed my number. only interaction is FB when i log on. the point is the cracks began to show in her facade and shes been begging me back. i got her to admit she fked around on me since we have been apart and I also confessed to 2 chicks i smashed. This threw her into a momentary rage.

Now the dust slightly settled and honestly I felt such a relief knowing what she did and having her actually admit it really lifted the weight off my shoulders. i NEEDED to know in order to completely devalue her in my eyes and move on confidently and assuredly. As in all honenstly I would hate to walk away from a girl who was actually completely faithful even throughout troubling times. so in effect her confession gave me the final strength to release and let go.

of course now she is messaging my asking for second chances and all kinds of BS throwing it in my face that I cheated as well. Which is all true but I asked her how could you even think of wannting to be with me after you know i fked 2 other females? Our relationship is broken its destroyed. thats not what love is. she still wants things to happen. of course i will not give in. TBH if she was BPD an crazy but also completely loyal and loved me then I would probably stick around and deal with some of the BS...but knowing she let another guy rail her. LOL does this chick think im cuckold ? There may be hypocracy here...but im not expecting her to have wanted me after knowing i cheated on her. oh well.

 

[marmel75]

Huh?

I think the issue is you are using "tactics" instead of just doing it because that's what you want to do. Big difference in mindset between the two.