Girls Approaching Guys!

[BigT]

I finally went out after a couple of months of feeling down on myself. That carried over when I went out, as I pretty much just hung out and observed rather than trying to meet anyone.

In retrospect, I note that several women were making their move, but I was too chickensh#t to make a move at the time.

Pretty much the only place women were willing to approach me was on the dance floor. One girl copped a feel grabbing my back but as soon as I turned around, she was running off.

Several other girls danced their way closer and closer to me, but I didn't acknowledge them.

I also noticed there was some drunk chick who repeatedly grabbed me, walking by me over and over again walking to who knows where and coming back.

Anyway, it seems like a girls are willing to approach on the dance floor or by 'accidentally' bumping into you (repeatedly).

I need to be aware of this for the next time!

 

[NSUballer]

Real simple.. Nut up!

Sounds like youre young. Younger women do things like that. Just be cool next time. Have a couple shots of whiskey to loosen up. Its all in good fun anyway.

 

[BigT]

I like this forum: recommendations include-go out, have fun, have a drink or two! That, I will!

 

[BigT]

Manned up and went out as I had been meaning to. It was actually quite a bit of fun. A half dozen girls approached me either with some random opener or by repeatedly rubbing themselves against me at the bar.

I didn't feel completely comfortable but for a first night of solo gaming since whenever, I had a really good time!

 

[Who Dares Win]

Now that I read it comes in my mind that its true, girls are more likely to approach on the dance floor than at the bar.

The explanation I can provide are two:

1)they dont risk to be rejected since they can tell (to themselves mostly) that they just wanted to dance and had no interested therefore are not rejected, plus in case they dont like whats happening they can simply turn around and pretend nothing happened.
Most of all nobody saw them so their "ego" is safe.

2)The guys on the dance floor are often(not always) of a better stock than the ones outside, it takes confidence and horniness to go to the dance floor even before having any ability, both qualities women dig.
You can easily see most of the shy unconfindent guys simply stay in a corner drinking.

My opinion anyway is that very rarely a hot chick will ever approach anyone unlike fkn hot himself, usually approaches are done from average to cute girls and desperate drunk fatties/uglos.

 

[BigT]

Great points. The bars I went to did not really have dance floors. Another good place to get approached is at the bar. There she can 'accidentally' bump into you, initiating a conversation.

 

[perseverance]

My opinion anyway is that very rarely a hot chick will ever approach anyone unlike fkn hot himself, usually approaches are done from average to cute girls and desperate drunk fatties/uglos.

When I've had four tequila slammers, two triple vodka & cokes everyone is game, including Ruby Wax.

 

[perseverance]

Great points. The bars I went to did not really have dance floors. Another good place to get approached is at the bar. There she can 'accidentally' bump into you, initiating a conversation.

You must be a chick magnet, I have been going to bars for the past five years and I've never had women 'accidently' bump into me.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I think that you're really over-analyzing and reading into things a bit much. Just relax and try to have fun.

 

[BigT]

You must be a chick magnet, I have been going to bars for the past five years and I've never had women 'accidently' bump into me.

You were probably getting drunk and having fun and didn't notice when it was happening!

 

[Nicholas]

I went out in a club once with few buddies who had their chick friends waiting for us.

When we were meeting each other and shaking hands one of them puts her hand like I was supposed to kiss it, turning head 90 degrees. She didn't even want to look at me. I believe it wasn't a coincidence that she was the hottest one.

Later on she realised I'm not giving her any attention, me being laid back drinking and being comfortable. She started stepping on my foot and pushing me I guess on purpose, and then would apologize with a wide smile. Yea right, now her crown dropped when she realised I don't care about her bull-sh1tting.

Too bad I didn't had the balls and the skill.

Just don't make a big deal about it. You can't really think you're the only one she has been giving similar signals all night. Because as time passes they become desperate and start crawling for attention.

 

[HalfAddict]

Had this happen the other night and she was quite forward mind you.

She first offered to buy me a shot, then told me how she was not having fun at the current establishment. I felt bad blowing her off but I was on edge from an altercation not but minutes ago.

 

[jglide123]

I would say that girls just walking up and approaching guys is fairly rare, at least in the way that men approach women. Women are usually more subtle than that. For example, a woman may ask a guy for the time and then linger, hoping he will continue talking to her....

 

[PapiChulo]

They are after your attention. Women do open interesting guys, but not in a bar or a club.

 

[drak_ool]

I would say that girls just walking up and approaching guys is fairly rare, at least in the way that men approach women.

I wouldn't say it's rare, however they do it in a more subtle way so it still takes some embryonic game to catch on the clues. I get approached almost every time I go out to a club, but the girls don't just come up to me and strike a convo.

Usually they will enter my personal circle, look me in the eye and smile. At this point, if I like the girl I take the lead and either open her or start dancing with her, depending on circumstances.

 

[jglide123]

I wouldn't say it's rare, however they do it in a more subtle way so it still takes some embryonic game to catch on the clues. I get approached almost every time I go out to a club, but the girls don't just come up to me and strike a convo.

Usually they will enter my personal circle, look me in the eye and smile. At this point, if I like the girl I take the lead and either open her or start dancing with her, depending on circumstances.

Exactly, but I went on to explain that in my original post.

To clarify, what I meant by that is girls approaching guys in the obvious "hey, I'm interested" way that men usually approach women is probably rare for most men. Social conditioning teaches women that men should do the approaching, and that for a woman to BOLDLY approach a man would constitute slutty behavior (even in 2012).

Studies have confirmed that women actually make the first move in many instances by giving guys non-verbal cues, similar to what you mentioned above (i.e. smiling, playing with hair, proximity, etc.)...

 

[BigT]

Actually, I was approached not only on the dance floor and at the bar, but just in the middle of the floor, not doing anything but being drunk and looking around.

Just go out.

 

[AAAgent]

I go to clubs all the time. bumping into you touching your back is definitely not a sign of interest. When your walking through a crowd of people bumping and grinding on each other and sometimes holding a drink, as a girl to not get squashed you automatically have your hand on someone or close to someone in case you need to push back. Girls almost will always smile at you when they are touching you because they can get away with it. As a guy when i cut through the crowd i obviously don't go touching girls and putting my hand on their backs, i normally just put it in the air in case the girl falls back when I'm trying to go forward as a potential shield. I've had butt touching happen plenty of times as well...when your taller than the average girl, their hands will scrap your ass sometimes.

Clear interest even if they try to play it off is when a girl will dance on you. They basically rub on you and pretend they are just dancing in the crowd. The shy ones if you turn around, will play it off like an accident, the confident ones will give you that look like they want you to basically kiss them right there.

Now that girl bumping into you multiple times was probably a sign of interest but the others just sounded like normal people walking by in a club. I don't think that girls approaching guys is rare as i've had it happen over a handful of times, but girls will definitely show signs of interest. Frequent glances, smiles and eye locks, dancing with you, and even bumping into you sometimes.

 

[BigT]

Even if she doesn't meet a technical definition of an approach treat it as an approach anyways. What have you got to lose?

 

[HalfAddict]

PapiChulo your theory is wrong, did you not read I just got opened in a bar and that broad may as well have asked me to take her home. It happens.