"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girls and NYC

Patton12

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hey yo

ok, so I'm a country boy. I live in NYC now.

Back home I could go out in public and approach girls EASY. No problem.

Now I can't. There's SO many people around. People are always on the go. It seems unnatural here to go up and talk to someone and keep them still for 2 minutes to talk.

How do you "cold approach" the ladies out here? I see women in the subway or on the streets that I'd like to approach all the time... but they're all either quickly passing, or (on the subway) everyone keeps to themselves.

I could also go out to clubs and such. I don't have any friends that I'd do that with out here, though.

So, any guys in NYC got any advice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BxPrince24

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I dunno what to tell u. I used to try without much success. You can probably pick up chicks on the train but I don't care to talk to chicks on the train whether they're checking me out or not. I'm still single. I'm fed up. I hate the bronx. Now I wanna move to georgia.

I'm tired of tryin to talk to chicks in the bronx, nyc and they just continue walking about their business. People in general are not really friendly in NYC. It's like you said, everyone's on the go. No one really wants to stop and talk. I'm the same way when I'm in Manhattan, I usually don't stop for anything.
 

yrock181

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i think that in the train is easier than many places because they are still. ive done a few times and have succesfully have closed a few girls. i would just talk to people around me because its easier than walking accross the car to talk to a girl.
 

blackbelt2k

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yea, no kidding...its crazy hard to get their attention here.. even if you get a possible IOI when walking, they are walking by to fast for you to just cold approach them
 
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