"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girls and musicians

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Why is it that girls love musicians?
Is it the artisit facet or is it because we are often indepentant?

I'm trying to figure this out since being in a band has boosted the rate I meet girls by over 100%.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You're the center of attention, the man of the hour when you're in a band, especially the lead singer. Girls LOVE to be in the spotlight and guys in bands have that.
 

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Is the drummer in your band getting the same attention from the chicks?

Secretly, I knew there was another reason why I started playing drums again...
 

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Drummers/bassists/backup guitarists etc don't get as much because they aren't in the lead of the band.

For example I'm the lead guitarist and singer of my band, and I have people I've never met come up to me and ask me about my music. People don't do that for the drummer and bassist of the band because they're kind of in the background, they aren't the sort of spokesperson of the band.

Not to say don't play drums, but don't play any musical instrument just to get girls, do it for youself and if it helps with chicks, awesome. But don't expect it to, play instruments for yourself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm in a band and I'm the lead singer. I've noticed that it works on the younger chicks more than the older ones usually. They're already freaking out that a guy 2 years older than them is talking to them and the fact that theyre on stage makes them crazy.
 

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Just curious, but do y'all think that Pianists would have the same effect since the piano is usualy considered more conservative and less exciting than rock and roll style instruments?
 

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Originally posted by Retrothe80sninja
Just curious, but do y'all think that Pianists would have the same effect since the piano is usualy considered more conservative and less exciting than rock and roll style instruments?
Been there, done that. Nope. That doesn't mean to stop playing it though, if you enjoy it, continue with it. It's not like it's helping you, it just won't hurt you. It's neutrel with women, although it helps with other areas of you rlife. Creativity, inspiration, etc.
 

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It's very true that being in a band helps you meet chicks. Unfortunately, my band plays death metal so I dont get to meet as many, but its all good. BTW I play guitar.
 

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Just curious, but do y'all think that Pianists would have the same effect since the piano is usualy considered more conservative and less exciting than rock and roll style instruments?
You could learn some mainstream songs that girls are likely to have heard. For example:

Billy Joel - Piano Man
Coldplay - Clocks, The Scientist
Ben Folds Five - Brick

You can rock out with piano, too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you really immerse yourself in music. Become music.

If you run around on stage letting it all out. (or you play piano with so much energy that people are just drawn in)

If you become your music, people notice! My band has a piano player (well.. keyboard, but still). He gets tons of poon mainly cuz he is so damn talented.
 

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Also the type of music your band plays has a huge effect on how many and what kind of girls you will attract. If you play mostly nice songs, with clean riffs, you will probably attract more girls then if you play raw grind guitar, blast beats and deep growl vocals.
 

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Ha

Sad to say but the trumpet isn't really a good instrument for getting girls. However since I am the best I do get a lot of credit and I am in the spotlight a lot so it can attract a few chicks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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