"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girlfriend's mother ain't too bright...

foomee

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my girlfriend seems to believe everything my mom says and always follows her advice. it's annoying as hell because her mom ain't that bright. she's basically a fob that married her husband after 3 months. what should i do about it? my gf wanted to break up with me a few weeks ago, and i think it was because of something her mom said. i'm actually at her house and they're upstairs talking, they've been talking for like an hour and it's really bothering me... any advice?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Let's seeeeeeee --- who should she listen to.... hmmmmmmmmm, a 19 year old kid or her mother who gave her birth and raised her to strength!! Tough choice! :rolleyes::
 

Thomas94305

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The mom is the alpha you need to deal with. Be appropriately friendly to her, but don't kiss up, or it will look like you are angling. Make some effort to talk with her Mom, build comfort, trust. That's the best you can do. Just relax after that. It goes south, chalk this up to experience.
 
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