Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She is going to stand by her friend. If your best guy friend cheated on his girl, would you go tell his girlfriend?Enjin 7 said:so my gf tells me a story of how her best friend cheated on her boyfriend by taking a shower with another (guy) friend in her group.
she is not going to tell him, even tho they hang out every day.
how can I analyze her character from this situation?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i agree with this advice too.Jackman said:My guess is that she's friends with both of these people (?) and doesn't want to get involved in a mess that would almost assuringly require "picking sides".
If that's the case, I wouldn't read too deep into this at all. She likes hot gossip but hates drama. Not a bad thing. I'd let it go.