You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She is going to stand by her friend. If your best guy friend cheated on his girl, would you go tell his girlfriend?Enjin 7 said:so my gf tells me a story of how her best friend cheated on her boyfriend by taking a shower with another (guy) friend in her group.
she is not going to tell him, even tho they hang out every day.
how can I analyze her character from this situation?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i agree with this advice too.Jackman said:My guess is that she's friends with both of these people (?) and doesn't want to get involved in a mess that would almost assuringly require "picking sides".
If that's the case, I wouldn't read too deep into this at all. She likes hot gossip but hates drama. Not a bad thing. I'd let it go.