You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Be original, sit down, think, write down what she likes and dislikes, put some thought into it. I would recommend staying away from the flowers, dinner thing as you had said. I would also recommend thinking of this yourself, because you can say to yourself afterwards "I GOT her this great gift, I THOUGHT of this" not, "Wow, thanks to that one dude from sosuave.net".foxintehsnow said:
Ah, thats gonna be hard ive been trying to do that for the past few weeks and nothing really came to mind..aussiegoat55 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I like the horseback riding idea but i don't know if theres anything like that around here and i defently don't know how to ride a dam horseZaraza said:
hum is there anyother kinda activityys that would be a good idea i can't really think of anything other then going to one of the big gocarting places in the GTA?Shes one I a numberous amounts of girls im with right now and ive only known her for like a month now...Rata Blanca said: