"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girlfriend wants to stop having sex? Religion?

earl4321

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Hey, guys. I'm a long time lurker on these boards and have used the tips here to have a good number of relationships. I've decided to try the LTR. We have been going out for about a year now, and everything has been great...or so I thought.

Recently, we had a conversation about religion, and she confessed that she felt really guilty and "convicted by God" after we have sex. She cried and everything which she has NEVER done in front of me. I have NO idea how to deal with this situation. After she confessed, we didn't have sex that night and haven't had sex for a week.

How should I proceed? I really like her, but how do I know this is just her way of not having sex with me and maybe ****ing someone else? It seems her interest level has actually INCREASED since this confession.

Give me some advice guys!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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horaholic

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Unless you're religious beliefs tell you the same thing, you might want to move on. I wouldnt put up with that unless I believed the same thing.

Have her read this website:http://www.sexinchrist.com/:up: You're welcome!
 

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Unless you subscribe to the SAME religious philosophy, this relationship is doomed and you know it!

Was she a virgin when you met her?

If not, then she didn't have a problem sleeping with other guys without God smacking her in the head. Why is it different now?

In a few weeks you'll be back asking for pointers on how to excite her back into having sex...then on if you should get a fcuk buddy on the side...then how to break up with her.

Save your self the grief! Tell her if she doesn't want an adult relationship, then you don't see a future for the two of you.

Wave bye-bye:wave:
 

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When you say you haven't had sex in a week, what does that even mean? Have you tried to initiate sex and been refused? Or has your own hangups over what she said completely stopped you from trying to have sex with her?
 

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I would say that it's my own hangups over what she has said that has stopped me. We've been in situations where we could easily have sex. Last night, we were in the bed watching television, and I was feeling all over her body. She didn't stop me, but sex didn't come up either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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horaholic

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First thing you need to learn is not listen to what women say. She might forget all about the no sex thing. I had a chick pull that with me when I was 18. I dumped her, yet we had Ex sex a bunch of times afterwards.

You are the man, and you should be initiating it, to see if she even resists.
 
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