"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girlfriend visiting guy today- Should I care?

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My girlfriend is visiting a guy she has known for a long time. She is going over to his house after visiting her dad in the hospital because his grandfather in in the same hospital. She called me last night and told me this. She said she felt guilty that she was going over there and not spending time with me. She got sidetracked at that moment by her parents and I took that oppertunity to get off the phone without acknowledging what she said. After that she text messaged me asking me if I wanted to hang out on Monday (we don't have school). I replied telling her I'd have to make sure I wasn't doing anything etc. She text messaged me back trying to keep the conversation going but I chose to go to sleep instead of replying.

From what I can tell this guy been attracted to her for the longest time but she doesn't really know it. She might feel some of the same attraction. They almost got together once and I think she might still regret it not happening. I think he might be in her friends zone. Did I make the right decision here or should I have put my foot down? On Monday I'm going to probably tell her that I want to meet this kid and maybe drill her about her intentions a little bit.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you don't feel good about this (understandable), maybe considering going with your gf to visit the guy.
 

AB500

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Probably a good idea but it's a little late in the game for that, right now I just hope that the trust I've put in her hasn't been misplaced. I kind of let it slide because I've been meaning to decrease the time we are seeing each other each other a little bit and not seeing her for 2 days is a good way to start. On Monday I guess I'll just have to pay attention and look for signs of guilt on her and make sure I show her that there is no reason to cheat, I doubt she'll do anything with the guy though, never cheated before.
 

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You're making something out of nothing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dannowillbookem

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the fact that she was asking about it to you and texting you meant she spent the evening worrying about what YOU were thinking...awesome. shes not gonna cheat or anything...shes attracted to you cause youre such a charming little assholle.
 

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Ha... I think you were right. Last night she texted me saying "hey u i havn't talked to u all day" and I texted her back. She called me afterwords and we had a short conversation until my power went out. I guess she never got the chance to go over to her friends house, etheir that or she decided agaisint it. Today we hung out for a few hours, she had to go to work but she kept procrastinating till the last minute to get off the couch. She kept complaining about how much she didn't want to go to the whole car ride there. I don't have anything to worry about.
 

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yeah well make sure YOURE the one getting off the couch next time and shiit like that. but yeah you have nothing to worry about.
 
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