"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girlfriend troubles...someone give some advice!?!?

SnowBlind77

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hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dude I would give her space, after shes done with that she will want to see you.
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.
Well, maybe you should ask her what's up about that? Usually much better to ask then to just guess or whatever.
 

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true, u could ask, but I guarantee 100% that if you jus ask, you will get the "nothings wrong at all" but I'd say try not to let it get2u or bring it up subtly sumhow
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.

I can't say that i've been with my girl for nearly as long as you have but I'm going through almost the same experience as you are...As you said I feel like I"m always putting in the effort to chill yada yada except for the few and sporatic times taht she askes me to hang (maybe once every 3 weeks or so) I'm also the one that always has to call/text her first (i'm not doign that anymore I refuse btw lol) However in school we always hang. For your specific example I'd say lay off of her for a while...don't attempt to hang with her call/text nothing...she'll either break up with you (signaling that she did infact lose interest) or she'll call YOU to hang out or to ask why you haven't been calling her which is when you can say well you've been acting so weird lately blah blah. Hope I helped man, GL.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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