"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girlfriend troubles...someone give some advice!?!?

SnowBlind77

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hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude I would give her space, after shes done with that she will want to see you.
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.
Well, maybe you should ask her what's up about that? Usually much better to ask then to just guess or whatever.
 

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true, u could ask, but I guarantee 100% that if you jus ask, you will get the "nothings wrong at all" but I'd say try not to let it get2u or bring it up subtly sumhow
 

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SnowBlind77 said:
hey guys, i havent been on here in a while but now i need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for around 1 year 1 month now and its been awesome. I can honestly say im in love with this girl...... like she brings out things in me i ddint know i ever had. Shes great and we always have a good time together, no matter what we do. Recently though, its been kinda wierd....i dont know if maybe shes not interested or maybe she just wants some space..... im not to sure, let me explain. At school we like never talk anymore, were never around each other at school, sometimes i feel like she doesnt even want me around. Dont get me wrong i like to just chill with my buddies at lunch and what not but i still like to go up to her and hang with her too. It just kinda feels like im putting all the effort in when it comes to us talking, us resolving fights, or us chilling, im not really sure when or why it turned out like this. But the strange thing is is that whenever we hang outside of school, everything is normal, we kiss and cuddle and laugh and bang and all that stuff. Maybe she just wants space to just be with her friends???? am i right on this? someone give me some advice, and give me their input please it would be greatly appreciated.

I can't say that i've been with my girl for nearly as long as you have but I'm going through almost the same experience as you are...As you said I feel like I"m always putting in the effort to chill yada yada except for the few and sporatic times taht she askes me to hang (maybe once every 3 weeks or so) I'm also the one that always has to call/text her first (i'm not doign that anymore I refuse btw lol) However in school we always hang. For your specific example I'd say lay off of her for a while...don't attempt to hang with her call/text nothing...she'll either break up with you (signaling that she did infact lose interest) or she'll call YOU to hang out or to ask why you haven't been calling her which is when you can say well you've been acting so weird lately blah blah. Hope I helped man, GL.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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