PeasantPlayer
Master Don Juan
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I'm not stepping my game up for any woman, why? because I don't give a ****. I am not a womans personal toy or clown, if she wants to move on she can
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girlfriend treats me like a "friend" around MY friends
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Meisterman
Senior Don Juan
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It's possible that she is giving off the vibe that she's "still on the market" to your friends. However it's also possible you're just insecure. You see your guy friends who are single and good looking, and then your gf talks or jokes with them. And you're ego is possessive about her and wants to claim her as 'yours.' You just gotta let go and ease up.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
Serenity
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You're afraid of your girlfriend and you're on a slippery slope with that jealousy going on. You're fvcking up, you know it and you know what to do.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
SO, let me get this straight. Your "friend" makes a joke about you, then she chimes in and makes fun of you too, so you offer to leave them together (...to ƒuck)?jay07 said:
I should ask "what's wrong with you?", too.
I treat my girlfriend like a "friend" when we're out and about, too. Your girl's game is tighter than yours, apparently. Got your hamster spinnin'!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.