PeasantPlayer
Master Don Juan
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I'm not stepping my game up for any woman, why? because I don't give a ****. I am not a womans personal toy or clown, if she wants to move on she can
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girlfriend treats me like a "friend" around MY friends
- Thread starter jay07
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Meisterman
Senior Don Juan
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It's possible that she is giving off the vibe that she's "still on the market" to your friends. However it's also possible you're just insecure. You see your guy friends who are single and good looking, and then your gf talks or jokes with them. And you're ego is possessive about her and wants to claim her as 'yours.' You just gotta let go and ease up.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
Serenity
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You're afraid of your girlfriend and you're on a slippery slope with that jealousy going on. You're fvcking up, you know it and you know what to do.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
SO, let me get this straight. Your "friend" makes a joke about you, then she chimes in and makes fun of you too, so you offer to leave them together (...to ƒuck)?jay07 said:
I should ask "what's wrong with you?", too.
I treat my girlfriend like a "friend" when we're out and about, too. Your girl's game is tighter than yours, apparently. Got your hamster spinnin'!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.