PeasantPlayer
Master Don Juan
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I'm not stepping my game up for any woman, why? because I don't give a ****. I am not a womans personal toy or clown, if she wants to move on she can
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Girlfriend treats me like a "friend" around MY friends
- Thread starter jay07
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Meisterman
Senior Don Juan
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It's possible that she is giving off the vibe that she's "still on the market" to your friends. However it's also possible you're just insecure. You see your guy friends who are single and good looking, and then your gf talks or jokes with them. And you're ego is possessive about her and wants to claim her as 'yours.' You just gotta let go and ease up.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
But much easier said than done. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. And without knowing the situation fully, it's impossible for us to say whether she is hitting on them or just being friendly. But I think the best think you can do, which was already mentioned in this thread, is separate bro time from girl time. There are times you chill with your bros, and there are times you chill with your gf. But try to separate them as much as possible.
As long as you are inviting your GF to tag along while hanging with your bros, and vice versa, you are enabling anything that may happen between them. Stop being an enabler. Keep them separate and if she still hooks up with them then you know she's a ho and you saved yourself wasted time from a dumb girl and a fake bro.
Serenity
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You're afraid of your girlfriend and you're on a slippery slope with that jealousy going on. You're fvcking up, you know it and you know what to do.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
SO, let me get this straight. Your "friend" makes a joke about you, then she chimes in and makes fun of you too, so you offer to leave them together (...to ƒuck)?jay07 said:
I should ask "what's wrong with you?", too.
I treat my girlfriend like a "friend" when we're out and about, too. Your girl's game is tighter than yours, apparently. Got your hamster spinnin'!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.