Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Girlfriend Thinks My Smoking is Unattractive

foomee

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2006
Messages
363
Reaction score
1
Age
39
Location
California
She says smoking is unattractive and she doesn't want to be dating a pothead. One of the guys I live with smokes everyday and I can't help it if I'm going to be around marijuana. He's my friend and no girl can prevent that. But she says she doesn't want to date a pothead, but I smoke about three times a week, usually twice on weekends and once during the week. I'm in college and to me it's a nice break from the heavy workloads I have; plus I work to jobs and this girl doesn't work at all so I'm basically paying for her lunches and dinners. Anyhow, what should I tell her or do? I don't want to break up with her and I don't want her to control my life. This is who I am and it helps me. Her idea of relaxing and having fun is sitting around taking 8 shots within two hours with one other friend of her's. I find that incredibly boring. I don't want our discussion to turn into some big fight either, but I need to communicate to her how I feel and I want to find a solution that works for both of us.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Andromax

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2004
Messages
393
Reaction score
0
Age
43
Location
Alaska
Ignore her whining dude, you're 20 and living your life.

If she leaves you, well then get a girl that you are compatible with.
 

KarmaSutra

Banned
Joined
Oct 13, 2005
Messages
4,818
Reaction score
142
Age
53
Location
Padron Reserve maduro in hand while finishing my b
foomee said:
I can't help it if I'm going to be around marijuana.
You've established that you have no self control.

Not good.

If you want to be a hippie and toke up so be it, but don't blame the chick because she has some self discipline.

Find a chick who wants to hug trees and roll doobees while chugging down Doritos and living on Pepsi and PS2.

As far as you paying for her to stick around by buying her attention with food and whatnot, this is you usurping your own authority and should cease immediately.
 

War Against Betaism

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
1,600
Reaction score
28
Location
California
If you want to keep smoking, keep smoking.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

JackPrescott

Banned
Joined
Apr 19, 2005
Messages
860
Reaction score
7
foomee said:
She says smoking is unattractive and she doesn't want to be dating a pothead. One of the guys I live with smokes everyday and I can't help it if I'm going to be around marijuana. He's my friend and no girl can prevent that. But she says she doesn't want to date a pothead, but I smoke about three times a week, usually twice on weekends and once during the week. I'm in college and to me it's a nice break from the heavy workloads I have; plus I work to jobs and this girl doesn't work at all so I'm basically paying for her lunches and dinners. Anyhow, what should I tell her or do? I don't want to break up with her and I don't want her to control my life. This is who I am and it helps me. Her idea of relaxing and having fun is sitting around taking 8 shots within two hours with one other friend of her's. I find that incredibly boring. I don't want our discussion to turn into some big fight either, but I need to communicate to her how I feel and I want to find a solution that works for both of us.
Try Narcotics Anonymous.
 

tick37

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2008
Messages
477
Reaction score
5
My wife left me because I wouldn't hang out with her pothead friends anymore. They had two kids, but didn't seem to care. The husband of her best friend played Final Fantasy all day and couldn't hold down a job. My wife and her sorry friends can kiss my arse. This chick you're dating sounds level headed and maybe you should listen to her. You're going to loose her if you don't. Good luck!
 

smooth guy

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2007
Messages
306
Reaction score
3
Stop smoking because a female doesn't like it. Yeah that'll be the right thing to do
 

KingBeef

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 11, 2001
Messages
803
Reaction score
116
Location
Queens, New York
KarmaSutra said:
You've established that you have no self control.

Not good.

If you want to be a hippie and toke up so be it, but don't blame the chick because she has some self discipline.

Find a chick who wants to hug trees and roll doobees while chugging down Doritos and living on Pepsi and PS2.

As far as you paying for her to stick around by buying her attention with food and whatnot, this is you usurping your own authority and should cease immediately.
ROFL :crackup: ......Excellent message!!!! :up:
 

tick37

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2008
Messages
477
Reaction score
5
smooth guy said:
Stop smoking because a female doesn't like it. Yeah that'll be the right thing to do
True ture, but maybe this guy needs someone to put his/her foot down for him to make the right choices. Some tough love, but anyway...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

sav

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2006
Messages
399
Reaction score
3
would you care if she ****ed up her health with drugs 3 times a week?
 

MooseGod

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2007
Messages
785
Reaction score
11
Location
The Paradise City where the grass is green and the
Some of you guys are sadly misinformed. The effects of pot are short-term at best, although smoking anything heavily might get you lung cancer in the long run. Granted, THC stays in your fat cells for a bit longer, but after you quit toking for a week or so (wake and baker) you'll be just as clear headed as everybody else (which isn't saying much these days.) The only way it's bad is if it interferes with getting a good job.

Find a chick who's cool with it. I can't stand *****es who preach against the evils of marijuana and then go out and get sh!t faced drunk that night. Plus nothing beats smokin' with your girl (it's a great aphrodisiac.)

And was the post about joining narcotics anonymous for real? Pot isn't even chemically addictive. If you can quit caffeine or donuts, you'll have no trouble quitting bud.
 

blackbelt2k

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 4, 2007
Messages
467
Reaction score
1
Location
NJ / NYC
you guys are pretty mean today, lol. Listen, I smoke, but i deny. I deny fully. Its a smart thing to do, as cool as smoking is to you, its only to you. I smoke maybe once or twice a month. When girls i date ask if i smoke, I say no. When my friends ask if i smoke, i say no. Lieing is bad, but so is being stupid. While it is still illegal, you should deny, deny, deny.
 

3countriesPlan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2007
Messages
671
Reaction score
29
Location
Beijing/Seoul/Portland
tick37 said:
My wife left me because I wouldn't hang out with her pothead friends anymore. They had two kids, but didn't seem to care. The husband of her best friend played Final Fantasy all day and couldn't hold down a job. My wife and her sorry friends can kiss my arse. This chick you're dating sounds level headed and maybe you should listen to her. You're going to loose her if you don't. Good luck!
WTF? are you serious?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

ChrizZ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2006
Messages
2,028
Reaction score
27
blow some smoke in her face, then fvck her.
 

Master Bates

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2007
Messages
1,001
Reaction score
10
HandyAndy said:
Smoking is unattractive, i dont like girls that smoke and guys who smoke will have that smell on them permanently.
cigarettes: yes. marijuana: no.

If she has a problem with it, tell her to piss off. Marijuana can be really enjoyable and if it's not being detrimental to your life or you're not dependent on it, go nuts. Alcohol is worse.

And btw, deadbeat potheads would be deadbeats otherwise. TONS of people smoke up now and then and lead normal lives. But of course everyone loves to focus on the deadbeat potheads. Hey, let's focus on deadbeat alcoholics and ban alcohol and see how that goes.
If there's one subject the american populace has been lied into utter ignorance on, it's marijuana.
 
Joined
Mar 12, 2007
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
13
Nothing wrong with smoking it's the same as drinking booze. Actually booze is worse. Screw the laws.

Some girls love to smoke and to some it's a deal breaker and they hate it. All I know is for the one's that like to smoke it gets them extremely horny so I try and keep it handy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top