"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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next her. she obviously want you to apologize for her ****ty behaviour and beg for her to stay with you so she can give you le coup de grace. she wants to dump you, she just needs an excuse. show her you are the greater catch and dump her first. there are plenty of single girls out there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I would say still shouldn't respond or at the very least give it some time to cool off. And by god man stop asking mutual friends for dirt, you never know where their loyalty stands and they can always run right to her to let her know. Come to the forum for advice and have a stiff upper lip in real life.
 

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She's looking for excuses to dump you and you're giving them to her. Sounds like there really is someone else. Trust us.
 

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The North Dragon said:
To late already replied.

Here's how it went so far

I replied

Me- what do we need to talk about'
Her- this relationship and everything else. talk like mature adults.
Me- how is it not working?
Her- you know it's not working me.
Me - ok
Her- I'm right though can't keep doing this.
Me- haven't replied , don't intend to
Your last reply should have been...."ok..have a nice life"....and don't look back. Abe
 

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apprenticedj said:
I would say still shouldn't respond or at the very least give it some time to cool off. And by god man stop asking mutual friends for dirt, you never know where their loyalty stands and they can always run right to her to let her know. Come to the forum for advice and have a stiff upper lip in real life.
Yeah lesson learned there about mutual friends. But Everytime you come her people always says just leave? I mean surely there have to be sometimes things can workout? I am not saying mines is salvageable either but I know of relationships that have ended and got back together a few times and are now engaged and have their own place together.

So how does that work?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The North Dragon said:
Yeah lesson learned there about mutual friends. But Everytime you come her people always says just leave? I mean surely there have to be sometimes things can workout? I am not saying mines is salvageable either but I know of relationships that have ended and got back together a few times and are now engaged and have their own place together.

So how does that work?
you must be a troll. if so im not feeding you anymore

if you arent, then gold help you.
 

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It's all about the quality of your partner and the compatability of the two of you. Advice on this site can be a little biased because we're only hearing about the BAD side of the relationship, only you know about the GOOD side.

If you are truly compatable, meaning you share similiar interests and values and have the same goals in life then just about anything can be overcome.

But don't look to others as an example. Those people that break up to make up only to break up again may be doing so for many different reasons. It's hard to say.

While we can offer our opinions and advice, only YOU know what's best.

What is your gut telling you about this girl? Therein lies the answer, our gut instincts are often spot on, though we may deny them.
 

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apprenticedj said:
It's all about the quality of your partner and the compatability of the two of you. Advice on this site can be a little biased because we're only hearing about the BAD side of the relationship, only you know about the GOOD side.

If you are truly compatable, meaning you share similiar interests and values and have the same goals in life then just about anything can be overcome.

But don't look to others as an example. Those people that break up to make up only to break up again may be doing so for many different reasons. It's hard to say.

While we can offer our opinions and advice, only YOU know what's best.

What is your gut telling you about this girl? Therein lies the answer, our gut instincts are often spot on, though we may deny them.
Well last time she behaved like this we talked and managed to sort it which was about 5-6 months ago.

I would like to think she will come around and realise what she's lost and that she was in the wrong provide I stay at NC and show I am moving on.

But by the time that does happen I feel I may already have moved on and not be interested.
 

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ImprovingJuan said:
you must be a troll. if so im not feeding you anymore

if you arent, then gold help you.
Mate I am not a troll, I am not coming on these websites to waste time kicking people about. I just lack experience with woman I am only 22, I was a ****head in previous relationships to.
 

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I feel sorry for you. I really do. Sadly this girl will not feel the same remorse when she bangs a guy at a party and blames it on the alcohol. Oopppss.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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22 yea i can see why this happened bro its understandable, but your woman suppose to say a lot about you and right now it sounds like she saying your a insecure guy who does not want to be alone lol, the right thing to have done that night was to leave her at that bar lol, if she is acting like a hoe treat her like one then , and hoes dont get taking out, we go out to meet hoes at bars and lounges cause thats where they hang out lol , they only get the telly treatment lol but move on kid youll be okay..but it sounds like you'll definitely be going back soon lol
 

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You fell for her bait. Hook, line and sinker.
 
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