I'm not trying to brag or anything but I'd say I have abovd average looks and people find me very attractive. I'm 16 years old and so is my girlfriend. We have dated for 4 months. I know you're probably thinking I'm just some ****y kid but I really need advice. Me and this girl have been through a lot. She always used to seem to snapchat and text other guys. When we first started dating she actually send a guy a nude. I forgave her but she still snspchats and talks to other guys. She knows I don't like it. But what would you guys do in this situation?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girlfriend talking and texting other guys? Your thoughts?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Always remember that you WILL NOT change a girls behaviour. They act on emotion and will do what they FEEEEEEEEEEEL at that time.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
Building_and_Loan
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She won't change her stripes man, she'll just get better at hiding it. She doesn't sound like she's worth the headache.
TheException
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Huge mistake.prepdj said:
Should have been the end of any relationship.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If you really do have above average looks, and this girl is driving up your level of anxiety and suspicion, then it sounds to me like you can do better. Think about that next time she drags you into another sh1t storm.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
It's been so long since I've been 16 that I honestly can't remember. I will give you advice like you were my kid.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
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BlueAlpha1
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Dump her. That's it
YawataNoKami
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You are 16 , dump her and move on.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.