I'm not trying to brag or anything but I'd say I have abovd average looks and people find me very attractive. I'm 16 years old and so is my girlfriend. We have dated for 4 months. I know you're probably thinking I'm just some ****y kid but I really need advice. Me and this girl have been through a lot. She always used to seem to snapchat and text other guys. When we first started dating she actually send a guy a nude. I forgave her but she still snspchats and talks to other guys. She knows I don't like it. But what would you guys do in this situation?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girlfriend talking and texting other guys? Your thoughts?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Always remember that you WILL NOT change a girls behaviour. They act on emotion and will do what they FEEEEEEEEEEEL at that time.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
Building_and_Loan
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She won't change her stripes man, she'll just get better at hiding it. She doesn't sound like she's worth the headache.
TheException
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Huge mistake.prepdj said:
Should have been the end of any relationship.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If you really do have above average looks, and this girl is driving up your level of anxiety and suspicion, then it sounds to me like you can do better. Think about that next time she drags you into another sh1t storm.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
It's been so long since I've been 16 that I honestly can't remember. I will give you advice like you were my kid.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
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BlueAlpha1
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Dump her. That's it
YawataNoKami
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You are 16 , dump her and move on.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.