I'm not trying to brag or anything but I'd say I have abovd average looks and people find me very attractive. I'm 16 years old and so is my girlfriend. We have dated for 4 months. I know you're probably thinking I'm just some ****y kid but I really need advice. Me and this girl have been through a lot. She always used to seem to snapchat and text other guys. When we first started dating she actually send a guy a nude. I forgave her but she still snspchats and talks to other guys. She knows I don't like it. But what would you guys do in this situation?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girlfriend talking and texting other guys? Your thoughts?
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- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Always remember that you WILL NOT change a girls behaviour. They act on emotion and will do what they FEEEEEEEEEEEL at that time.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
Building_and_Loan
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She won't change her stripes man, she'll just get better at hiding it. She doesn't sound like she's worth the headache.
TheException
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Huge mistake.prepdj said:
Should have been the end of any relationship.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If you really do have above average looks, and this girl is driving up your level of anxiety and suspicion, then it sounds to me like you can do better. Think about that next time she drags you into another sh1t storm.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
It's been so long since I've been 16 that I honestly can't remember. I will give you advice like you were my kid.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
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BlueAlpha1
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Dump her. That's it
YawataNoKami
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You are 16 , dump her and move on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.