I'm not trying to brag or anything but I'd say I have abovd average looks and people find me very attractive. I'm 16 years old and so is my girlfriend. We have dated for 4 months. I know you're probably thinking I'm just some ****y kid but I really need advice. Me and this girl have been through a lot. She always used to seem to snapchat and text other guys. When we first started dating she actually send a guy a nude. I forgave her but she still snspchats and talks to other guys. She knows I don't like it. But what would you guys do in this situation?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girlfriend talking and texting other guys? Your thoughts?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Always remember that you WILL NOT change a girls behaviour. They act on emotion and will do what they FEEEEEEEEEEEL at that time.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
She has all the power here though. Care less, date other girls but don't tell her you're downgrading her, just treat her accordingly.
Building_and_Loan
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She won't change her stripes man, she'll just get better at hiding it. She doesn't sound like she's worth the headache.
TheException
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Huge mistake.prepdj said:
Should have been the end of any relationship.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If you really do have above average looks, and this girl is driving up your level of anxiety and suspicion, then it sounds to me like you can do better. Think about that next time she drags you into another sh1t storm.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
Also, your prime is roughly twenty years or so away. Go with the flow. Don't tolerate bad behavior. It's one of the worst habits you can pick up in relation to people in general, not only with women.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
It's been so long since I've been 16 that I honestly can't remember. I will give you advice like you were my kid.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
You're still young, trust me when I tell you that you have literally hundreds of girls/women in front of you. Learn what you can from this one. When you get to college you will not care a lick for this girl... your life will change.
Glad you are here learning early the nature of women the result is that you will have a much more happy freaking life than many of us did. I didn't start learning this stuff until my 2nd year of college when my grandfather (of all people) recently windowed took me under his wing and showed me the ropes.
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BlueAlpha1
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Dump her. That's it
YawataNoKami
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You are 16 , dump her and move on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.