I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Id rather be outcome independent and just get on with my life, if I was OP. That way her drama doesn't even come into your life, your frame is solid and - well - you can just do what you want to do.skinnyguy said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
^^ I agree with this actually. A very brief non butt hurt text THEN go NC. Best of both worlds.Bible_Belt said:
She was mad because she thought you where treating her like $hit, from not telling her. She didn't want to just feel like some s1ut you bang out. She wanted a stronger position in your life. Like I said, this could've been one of the reasons she had to talk.mikey90 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's why my approach works. I've been in both situations where it's the "I want to dump you in person" speech, and the "this irrelevant thing is bothering me" speech. Throwing the "are you done with me" question at her causes emotional fluctuation which works in your favour. If she asks about why you said it, just let her know that you don't want to waste any time if her interest drops. Doing this actually puts you in the position of power because it lets her know that you could drop her like a smelly old hat and move on.Fela Kuti said:
