Girlfriend Problem...Not for Weak-minded (Long.)

[OnetimePoster]

Problem solved. Thanks for the help everyone (except you Technical )

 

[Last Man Standing]

I'm confused!! What is your point in 50 words or less???

 

[OnetimePoster]

Five words:

What do I do now?

or

What would you do now?

And now you screwed up my screen name...

 

[PrinceBeavis]

There's no way I'm going to read all that.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Haha, bad screen name on your part!! What is the crux of the matter???

 

[OnetimePoster]

Um...I think she might be using me, unknowingly or not, to get over her trust issues.

Her bitter spitefulness might be replacing true affection for me.

She's not over her ex.

I'm probably just a paranoid jerk (I realise this.)

Basically, could this be the real deal? I doubt you can answer this for sure, but I don't know.

I get the feeling I have some heartache headed my way.

 

[nubian-knight]

sounds like she sees u as stable n trustworthy, trying to get into u but still thinking about those guys in her past

do the same...keep talking to her but talk to to other girls n let her know it so she doesn't u for granted

 

[Last Man Standing]

Um...I think she might be using me, unknowingly or not, to get over her trust issues.

Her bitter spitefulness might be replacing true affection for me.

She's not over her ex.

I'm probably just a paranoid jerk (I realise this.)

Basically, could this be the real deal? I doubt you can answer this for sure, but I don't know.

I get the feeling I have some heartache headed my way.

Is she a virgin???

Her bitter spitefulness might be replacing true affection for me.

\ou are delusional!!!

 

[The Deacon]

You got yourself into quite a pickle with this girl. Now you see what hot woman's disease is like. A really hot girl tends to make a horrible girlfriend usually because her emotions toss her around when all her options start popping up. They typically fall for the shallow alpha males because they know how to push their buttons quite well.

Here's what I say. Only hold on as much as she's holding on to save your dignity. Tell her that if she doesn't want to be together with you, she needs to stop playing games on the real. Tell her that you're not gonna be some backburner dude while she just lets her emotions control her life. You're not a stranger to confrontation, hell, I salute you for going to Starbucks and confronting her about it.

I know this phrase of advice is used a little too much on this forum, but when a girl starts giving you mixed bullcrap like this, it's best to be a man and put her back in line. If she refuses to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, she doesn't deserve you. They tell us all on these forums that we are the prize, and you need to honestly believe that if you're ever going to have a healthy, functional relationship.

 

[Technical1]

here's a thought: ditch the girl and work on yourself. You obviously dont have a powerful enough life built up to keep a girl of this calibre in orbit around you. So you want to orbit around her. Thats why your making posts on this board and she probably isnt making posts about you on a feminine board. Well, that situation will be very temporary even if it does succeed. It will be the quick fix rather than the long term solution.

 

[Technical1]

-She's an amazingly cute-funny girl that I really click with.

When you click with a woman it works out so well that you dont end up posting about it on boards asking for advice. Clearly you WANT to click with this girl and for her part, you DONT click.

Of course this forum is filled with idiots that won’t even bother reading and will only come up with a glib, shallow conclusion that will just end up insulting me. So in advance: Go screw yourself you jerks.

If you have to post this kind of pre-emptive aggressive defense, denigrating this board's posters, you clearly are working from a position of fragile ego and general insecurity. I know where you're coming from though, dont worry about it. I might have posted with the same snotty tone 2 years ago.

Stuff likes this speaks volumes about who YOU are, doesn't say anything about the patrons of this forum.

Of course I appreciate any serious responses, not that I'll come back to read them.

You're defensively insulating yourself from the interaction with this board's posters before its even taken place. Its obvious you fear it, or the issues that might be brought up by it. And well you should, you're living on ego rather than natural confidence and your trying to prop up a fragile self-concept. Like I said, work on yourself first.