"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So I was hanging out with my girlfriend (about 4 months) last night and she used my cell phone to log on facebook. (I despise it, and check it about once every 2-3 weeks, or use it for school purposes)

Anyway this morning i went on it and i saw that she was still logged in...of course instead of logging out I decided to look at her messages.

The first one was to some guy asking him to find her and her friend a date to another school's prom. She contacted him, not the other way around.

Message as follows:

Hey ---- its been a while...but i was wondering if u could do me/---- a huge favor...were trying to go to prom and we kinda need ppl to take us and we figured u would know some ppl so if u do let me know =) thanks




I looked through the rest, and there was nothing else to any other guys. Maybe I am just overreacting, but it seems disrespectful to me.

Any advice would be good.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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uhhhhh....thats the biggest overreaction ive ever heard of
 

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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong or disrespectful about that message.
 

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Apocalypse Now said:
Why isn't she taking you to the prom?
How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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horaholic said:
How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.

"The first one was to some guy asking him to find her and her friend a date to another school's prom. She contacted him, not the other way around."
 

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horaholic said:
How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.

your misunderstanding..

SHE sent that, not the other way around.
 

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Apocalypse Now said:
Why isn't she taking you to the prom?

I should probably clarify.

She goes to an All girls school - No Prom.

I go to an all boy's.

The guy that she messaged also goes to another all boy's school.
 
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You said that's her first message and you guys been together for 4 months. I still have messages about a year old in my inbox. Did you check the date of when she sent that message?

Also, what Apocalypse said, why isn't she bringing you?
 

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Social Calibration said:
You said that's her first message and you guys been together for 4 months. I still have messages about a year old in my inbox. Did you check the date of when she sent that message?

Also, what Apocalypse said, why isn't she bringing you?
Thats the first thing I thought, and it was dated March 19th. With a reply from him the 20th.

And as I mentioned above because she goes to an all girl's school they don't have a prom for their school.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cw92 said:
Thats the first thing I thought, and it was dated March 19th. With a reply from him the 20th.

And as I mentioned above because she goes to an all girl's school they don't have a prom for their school.
Has she ever brought it up to you?
 
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how bout you stop having a guuuuurlfriend when you are only in high school. Why in the world are you committing yourself to just ONE girl? Now you are acting like a chump in your own mind, and you are worrying about bullshyt things like this, when all that you should be doing is trolling for as much new p$ssy as possible!!!

why are you committed to this girl? whats the point?
 

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it seems disrespectful to me.

Much less so than going through her phone. I had a girl read my email once at my house behind my back and I literally threw her out the door and sent her walking down the street at 1 am, it made me that mad.
 
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cw92 said:
your misunderstanding..

SHE sent that, not the other way around.
Oh. My apologies, I totally DID read that wrong. In that case, yeah, you have a problem.
 
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my advice better not be missed by the original poster, because its the kind of advice that will solve his problems now, and for the foreseeable future as well when it comes to how to manage women
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A) You have a problem that she's looking for other guys to go to the prom with instead of you

B) You're young and have no business getting wrapped up in serious relationships. Turn down the formality and date a bunch of other girls for a decade.
 

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these girls go to an all girl school and they just want to go to the prom at some other school so that they can look back and say they went to the damn prom.

no one is asking them, so they sent a message to some dude they knew.
all they need is two guys to show up with them to get them in, and then they can be there and do whatever they want.

the only things weird about it is that she didn't tell you what they were planning to do.

perhaps she only sent it and left herself logged in, is so you could get jealous and ask her to your stinking prom.


don't ask me what is so dreamy about this prom thing , but most chicks really dream about going. i don't know, because i never gave a crap and wasn't even in school by the time my friends were going.
 

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don't ask me what is so dreamy about this prom thing , but most chicks really dream about going. i don't know, because i never gave a crap


That's because you are cool. :cool: Most girls...not so much.
 

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perhaps the chicks that demand that they attend the prom, whether it be as dreamy and special as they expect....or not...
are the same chicks that spend 5 grand on a wedding ...
you know the ones,,,five fluffy puke peach bridesmaids dresses , five layer cake in five different flavors, little food things people call hor' devours that taste the crap, freggin chocolate fountains to stick strawberries and cheese in... releasing butterflies instead of letting people chuck rice at them with caterers and a dj because they don't know a good band....

yah... i am now betting this is prelude to the land of the delusional...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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