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So I was hanging out with my girlfriend (about 4 months) last night and she used my cell phone to log on facebook. (I despise it, and check it about once every 2-3 weeks, or use it for school purposes)

Anyway this morning i went on it and i saw that she was still logged in...of course instead of logging out I decided to look at her messages.

The first one was to some guy asking him to find her and her friend a date to another school's prom. She contacted him, not the other way around.

Message as follows:

Hey ---- its been a while...but i was wondering if u could do me/---- a huge favor...were trying to go to prom and we kinda need ppl to take us and we figured u would know some ppl so if u do let me know =) thanks




I looked through the rest, and there was nothing else to any other guys. Maybe I am just overreacting, but it seems disrespectful to me.

Any advice would be good.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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uhhhhh....thats the biggest overreaction ive ever heard of
 
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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong or disrespectful about that message.
 
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Apocalypse Now said:
Why isn't she taking you to the prom?
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How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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horaholic said:
How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.
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"The first one was to some guy asking him to find her and her friend a date to another school's prom. She contacted him, not the other way around."
 
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horaholic said:
How do you know she's not? The guy was basically asking her to set him and his buddy up with a couple of her friends. WTF is the big deal, here? He wasnt asking HER to the prom.

She's innocent (according to this anyway!), OP's insecure. End of story.
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your misunderstanding..

SHE sent that, not the other way around.
 
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Apocalypse Now said:
Why isn't she taking you to the prom?
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I should probably clarify.

She goes to an All girls school - No Prom.

I go to an all boy's.

The guy that she messaged also goes to another all boy's school.
 
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You said that's her first message and you guys been together for 4 months. I still have messages about a year old in my inbox. Did you check the date of when she sent that message?

Also, what Apocalypse said, why isn't she bringing you?
 
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Social Calibration said:
You said that's her first message and you guys been together for 4 months. I still have messages about a year old in my inbox. Did you check the date of when she sent that message?

Also, what Apocalypse said, why isn't she bringing you?
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Thats the first thing I thought, and it was dated March 19th. With a reply from him the 20th.

And as I mentioned above because she goes to an all girl's school they don't have a prom for their school.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

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cw92 said:
Thats the first thing I thought, and it was dated March 19th. With a reply from him the 20th.

And as I mentioned above because she goes to an all girl's school they don't have a prom for their school.
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Has she ever brought it up to you?
 
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how bout you stop having a guuuuurlfriend when you are only in high school. Why in the world are you committing yourself to just ONE girl? Now you are acting like a chump in your own mind, and you are worrying about bullshyt things like this, when all that you should be doing is trolling for as much new p$ssy as possible!!!

why are you committed to this girl? whats the point?
 
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it seems disrespectful to me.

Much less so than going through her phone. I had a girl read my email once at my house behind my back and I literally threw her out the door and sent her walking down the street at 1 am, it made me that mad.
 
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cw92 said:
your misunderstanding..

SHE sent that, not the other way around.
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Oh. My apologies, I totally DID read that wrong. In that case, yeah, you have a problem.
 
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my advice better not be missed by the original poster, because its the kind of advice that will solve his problems now, and for the foreseeable future as well when it comes to how to manage women
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

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A) You have a problem that she's looking for other guys to go to the prom with instead of you

B) You're young and have no business getting wrapped up in serious relationships. Turn down the formality and date a bunch of other girls for a decade.
 
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these girls go to an all girl school and they just want to go to the prom at some other school so that they can look back and say they went to the damn prom.

no one is asking them, so they sent a message to some dude they knew.
all they need is two guys to show up with them to get them in, and then they can be there and do whatever they want.

the only things weird about it is that she didn't tell you what they were planning to do.

perhaps she only sent it and left herself logged in, is so you could get jealous and ask her to your stinking prom.


don't ask me what is so dreamy about this prom thing , but most chicks really dream about going. i don't know, because i never gave a crap and wasn't even in school by the time my friends were going.
 
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don't ask me what is so dreamy about this prom thing , but most chicks really dream about going. i don't know, because i never gave a crap


That's because you are cool. :cool: Most girls...not so much.
 
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perhaps the chicks that demand that they attend the prom, whether it be as dreamy and special as they expect....or not...
are the same chicks that spend 5 grand on a wedding ...
you know the ones,,,five fluffy puke peach bridesmaids dresses , five layer cake in five different flavors, little food things people call hor' devours that taste the crap, freggin chocolate fountains to stick strawberries and cheese in... releasing butterflies instead of letting people chuck rice at them with caterers and a dj because they don't know a good band....

yah... i am now betting this is prelude to the land of the delusional...
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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