"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girlfriend kissed another guy...then apologized

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My gf was out with another guy the other night and said all they did was kiss and hold hands. She than apologized and promised to never do it again.

I learned from her sister later that my gf didn't get home until 4:30 in the morning. I told her this and she said that they sat in her driveway for 3 hours...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude, why are you even giving her the benefit of the doubt? the door's closed for debate. you should dump her immediately, retaining your dignity, and move on to a girl who's completely worth your energy.
 
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Not worth it at all. Dump her immediately. If she was going out alone with a guy when the two of you are in a relationship... sounds sketchy in the first place. But then, the two of them suckin face in his car for 3 hours would definitely seal the deal for me. NEXT:trouble:
 
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You cant have a relationship with a girl if you dont trust her. By her actions you cant trust her. Therefore you cant have a relationship with her and must move on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You have a chance now to learn how to be that guy, who'd take someone else's girl, takes her over to his place, has wild sex with her until 4:20 in the morning, and then lets her run back to his boyfriend... Click the link in my signature.
 
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You've no choice but to dump her. If you don't you'll be seen as a soft fool and she'll have even less respect for you than she has now. She might try come crawling back but you can't trust her no more.
 
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she cheated...

no matter how you put it... she held hands.. kissed the dude, and then "sat" in her driveway for 3 hours? bs.. replace SAT with FvCKED and that seems more feasible....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have to agree with most of the guys on this thread. Your girlfriend seems to be wavering on you because what she did is not what commited couples do...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Drum&Bass said:
Keep her...As a Fuddy-Duck Buddy !
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See the problem with that is you cant do that without:

a) not trusting her account of the story and charging her for cheating.
b) seeing her as a slvt rather than a gf and thus losing all respect for her.
...which that manipulative gf will then make up a 'feeling hurt act', break-up and claim he jumped to conclusions and did not trust her.

Best revenge is to just forget about her and move on.
 
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"Once a cheat always a cheat"

Probably hard to deal with all this, I know man, I had a girl cheat on me a few years ago. Usually a girl will leave out a few details. When my girl cheated on me she told me she only kissed the guy, but her best friend said they were having sex in his bedroom. Bad memories. For some reason (desperation) I took her back and they were the worst 11 months of my life.

Cut your losses and just dump the bytch. You have a gold mine of a site here, and there are plenty of women in the world who would be better for you. You should have NO PROBLEM replacing her.

Trust me, if you stay together, this will be in the back of your head ALL THE TIME. It will eat away at you like you would never believe. Came home at 4:30????? That's f'ed up. She obviously has NO RESPECT for you. It doesn't matter how bad she feels, the fact is that she did it. If she respected you she wouldn't have done anything with this guy.

It's probably true that it's easier to get a new girl than it is to keep one. You probably just found this out though. Look on the bright side though, you know that girls aren't exactly always faithful to their boyfriends. This can come in handy for when you are single!
 
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What do you expect from folks at Sosuave when you said your "girlfriend kissed another guy?" No matter how apologetic she was after commiting the act, don't expect folks here to tell you to buy her roses. Folks here don't care how hot your girlfriend is. She disrespected you and must be punished accordingly. Unless you're ready to give her another chance yourself, do not complain about it to anybody.
 
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why did she go out with another guy, if she has a boyfriend, in the first place?
 
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Mr. Wolf said:
You have a chance now to learn how to be that guy, who'd take someone else's girl, takes her over to his place, has wild sex with her until 4:20 in the morning, and then lets her run back to his boyfriend... Click the link in my signature.
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I don't want to be that guy...this really sucks, but I think I do need to breakup with her. If I have live with this feeling the rest of the time I'm with her it is simply not worth it. My stomach is in knots. Anger at her, anger at him, and anger at myself.


Francisco d'Anconia said:
Is her sister hot?
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lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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