"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

Girlfriend kissed another guy...then apologized

B

Blackhole105

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 13, 2007
Messages
51
Reaction score
0
My gf was out with another guy the other night and said all they did was kiss and hold hands. She than apologized and promised to never do it again.

I learned from her sister later that my gf didn't get home until 4:30 in the morning. I told her this and she said that they sat in her driveway for 3 hours...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

T

tr0ublemaker

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2006
Messages
115
Reaction score
0
Location
Virginia
dude, why are you even giving her the benefit of the doubt? the door's closed for debate. you should dump her immediately, retaining your dignity, and move on to a girl who's completely worth your energy.
 
M

muzicfreak2k3

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 9, 2006
Messages
106
Reaction score
0
Not worth it at all. Dump her immediately. If she was going out alone with a guy when the two of you are in a relationship... sounds sketchy in the first place. But then, the two of them suckin face in his car for 3 hours would definitely seal the deal for me. NEXT:trouble:
 
L

Luke Skywalker

Banned
Joined
May 23, 2006
Messages
2,434
Reaction score
11
You cant have a relationship with a girl if you dont trust her. By her actions you cant trust her. Therefore you cant have a relationship with her and must move on.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

M

Mr. Wolf

Banned
Joined
Sep 27, 2007
Messages
722
Reaction score
5
You have a chance now to learn how to be that guy, who'd take someone else's girl, takes her over to his place, has wild sex with her until 4:20 in the morning, and then lets her run back to his boyfriend... Click the link in my signature.
 
A

Answers

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 26, 2007
Messages
269
Reaction score
1
You've no choice but to dump her. If you don't you'll be seen as a soft fool and she'll have even less respect for you than she has now. She might try come crawling back but you can't trust her no more.
 
S

sav

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2006
Messages
399
Reaction score
3
she cheated...

no matter how you put it... she held hands.. kissed the dude, and then "sat" in her driveway for 3 hours? bs.. replace SAT with FvCKED and that seems more feasible....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

M

Mr Autobahn

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2006
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
I have to agree with most of the guys on this thread. Your girlfriend seems to be wavering on you because what she did is not what commited couples do...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

L

Luke Skywalker

Banned
Joined
May 23, 2006
Messages
2,434
Reaction score
11
Drum&Bass said:
Keep her...As a Fuddy-Duck Buddy !
Click to expand...

See the problem with that is you cant do that without:

a) not trusting her account of the story and charging her for cheating.
b) seeing her as a slvt rather than a gf and thus losing all respect for her.
...which that manipulative gf will then make up a 'feeling hurt act', break-up and claim he jumped to conclusions and did not trust her.

Best revenge is to just forget about her and move on.
 
Y

young_gun

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 9, 2004
Messages
556
Reaction score
9
"Once a cheat always a cheat"

Probably hard to deal with all this, I know man, I had a girl cheat on me a few years ago. Usually a girl will leave out a few details. When my girl cheated on me she told me she only kissed the guy, but her best friend said they were having sex in his bedroom. Bad memories. For some reason (desperation) I took her back and they were the worst 11 months of my life.

Cut your losses and just dump the bytch. You have a gold mine of a site here, and there are plenty of women in the world who would be better for you. You should have NO PROBLEM replacing her.

Trust me, if you stay together, this will be in the back of your head ALL THE TIME. It will eat away at you like you would never believe. Came home at 4:30????? That's f'ed up. She obviously has NO RESPECT for you. It doesn't matter how bad she feels, the fact is that she did it. If she respected you she wouldn't have done anything with this guy.

It's probably true that it's easier to get a new girl than it is to keep one. You probably just found this out though. Look on the bright side though, you know that girls aren't exactly always faithful to their boyfriends. This can come in handy for when you are single!
 
amoka

amoka

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2006
Messages
1,931
Reaction score
62
What do you expect from folks at Sosuave when you said your "girlfriend kissed another guy?" No matter how apologetic she was after commiting the act, don't expect folks here to tell you to buy her roses. Folks here don't care how hot your girlfriend is. She disrespected you and must be punished accordingly. Unless you're ready to give her another chance yourself, do not complain about it to anybody.
 
penkitten

penkitten

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2001
Messages
8,255
Reaction score
235
Age
49
Location
at our house
why did she go out with another guy, if she has a boyfriend, in the first place?
 
B

Blackhole105

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 13, 2007
Messages
51
Reaction score
0
Mr. Wolf said:
You have a chance now to learn how to be that guy, who'd take someone else's girl, takes her over to his place, has wild sex with her until 4:20 in the morning, and then lets her run back to his boyfriend... Click the link in my signature.
Click to expand...
I don't want to be that guy...this really sucks, but I think I do need to breakup with her. If I have live with this feeling the rest of the time I'm with her it is simply not worth it. My stomach is in knots. Anger at her, anger at him, and anger at myself.


Francisco d'Anconia said:
Is her sister hot?
Click to expand...
lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top