"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girlfriend joking about how I suck in bed
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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jophil28
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I would say." Honey, Im glad you rasied this issue. However I think that we still have enough for a good friendship without sex. Would you be OK if i had other sexual partners?"SamMalone said:
Man, what she said is extremely disespectful. How do you think that she would take it if you told her that she was a dud in the sack ?
Do you make her cvm 2-3 times per session on average? If so, your great in bed. As long as its at least once, you're doing ok. For your own benefit, I would pry into her to see what you can be doing better, if there is any truth to it. One of the best skills a man can learn is how to be the best lay his girls ever been, or at least close to it. Its easy, just pay attention, and try differnt things. Even just thrusting at a slightly different angle can make a woman gush if done properly.
BTW, if a woman ever does that, you should immediately rip her clothes off and fvck her as hard and violently as possible.... in the ass if possible
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bible_Belt
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I bet not.
To the OP, don't worry, a lot of women have their own issues that make it very hard for them to have an orgasm. That's the other half of her joke; she is not so great in bed herself. She has the same insecurities as you. Both of you have to work through those together if you want to have good sex. Understand, though, that as the guy you should not bear all the blame for sex being bad. It takes some talent on her part as well.
It depends man. In what context is she saying this? If she is doing this to tease you, she might just be actually teasing you. In that case, just tease her back. If you feel that she's saying it to be spiteful or because she actually believes that, you need to have the boundary talk. In any case, it should be her you should be telling this too not us. Be honest to her about how you think it's not cool that she does that.SamMalone said:
If it's just playful teasing, tease her about her weight
ThatMysteriousGuy
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There are lots of reasons women do this and it's quite common since it's usually an extremely weak spot in men. She can have multiple reasons wrapped all in one. It doesn't really matter.SamMalone said:
There isn't really any way to get around this besides thinking about something some previous girl did that was better and then chuckling to yourself. This'll set off her radar because women are sensitive to your interior state. In bed, their radar is twice as powerful and it'll bother her a lot. Absolutely do not tell her what you are thinking or laughing about and do not talk about other girls in bed. That will be a war you will not win.
She'll be very uncomfortable with your amusement as well as your "million miles away" look and since she cannot drag an answer out of you about it she'll stop because she knows something is turning the tables around on her but can't do anything about it except stop provoking it.
NOTE: Women WILL do this when a guy completely blows her away with sex compared to what she has previously had. She's trying to act cool about it. So, don't try to pin it down and act insecure. If it's a real issue she'll find another way to tell you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Finally, if she is not meeting your needs.. Just break up with her and find a new girl.
Julius_Seizeher
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A lot of guys don't realize the position they put themselves in when they try so hard to please women in bed, not aware of the fact that women don't stop **** testing even when having sex. It's probably one of the greatest power plays women have, the expectation that you as the man should be getting her off simply because she has a p-ssy.
I'm not a selfish person when it comes to sex, and I do make some effort to pick up on cues when something feels good, but make no mistake, I'm not putting pressure on myself to perform for women like I'm beneath them.
From what I've experienced, women who like being with you will actual try to enjoy themselves when having sex with you, not just lay there and expect you to get them off.
Don't let her think her comments are getting to you, in fact you could turn it around on her by describing other girls who you had a good time with and how she doesn't measure up (jokingly of course, just as she does it). Above all, never apologize for your performance.
Accension
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Next time you're having sexy time -- go as hard and fast as you can and keep saying "Do I suck huh? Do I suck in bed?"
My girlfriend LOVED this.
Look at the replies in this thread.
Do you guys take everything seriously?
Never take a girl seriously.
One last thing -- Tazman touched on this so props to him -- sex shouldn't just be bumpity-bump, talk during sex, joke around, lick her nipples and inquire as to when she'll stop withholding that delicious milk all for her selfish self.
I'm not trolling you.
Girls love having sex with me because it's fun.
Quite often I pretend I'm a porn star and she plays along, moaning outrageously.
Stuff like that is what makes for amazing sex, I promise.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
PlaysToWin
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Lots of good suggestions already for how to react. Basically tease her back and don't get upset.