"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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girlfriend is stressed..how to deal with it?

frivolousz21

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I am gonna try to give her space..even tho she doenst seem to want it...tonight she broke down and cried talking to me about her problems..I was comferting..but also telling her that she needs to worry more about her life and not making everyone happy all the time..if its not making her happy.

but she told me that it didnt pertain to me...and that she has no intentions of losing me over this..actually she didnt even bring it up...we were talking and I said somethjing about something and said I dont plan on breaking up with u now..she said i dont either...so what should I do to help her with this? im not a needy *****..so thats not an issue..I think she just needs sleep....and space from all her family and friends.

what is the best thing I can do to make it easiest on her?

I am probably just gonna be relaxed with her..I told her if this affects me..then I wont want to do it..as in be with her..I laid my line down to what I can do..but she seems that she wants me around..and talks to me...so whats some ideas on how to keep things going and not pressure her??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You: I'm taking you out. What you're needing is going out with me and having a great time! Lets party
 

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You: "You need time, really. So its over until you make up your mind... call me when you are ready"
 

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You: "You need time, really. So its over until you make up your mind... call me when you are ready"
this has nothign to do with me...it has to do with her moving an hour from home the first time in her life..she is home sick.and she doenst have the balls to let go..and accept change..as in she tries to please everyone who wants some of her time..she complained about everyone.but she told me..that its remarkable that I dont smother her..but I have **** to do..:)

but I want to make this easy on her...any suggestions? also help her accept change
 

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Unfortunately no one's going to be able to give you any definitive advice - moving away from home effects different people in different ways. Her being homesick is something she's going to have to deal with on her own terms, and while it might be hard for you to watch, you just have to accept that she'll come around eventually.

What you can do in the meantime is continue being supportive, and continue to focus on your own matters. She knows that eventually she'll have to accept the change and move forward; pressure to do so from you isn't going to move things along any quicker.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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that is great advice spukee..that is..I can tell she is home sick..she has 2 days off tuesday and wednesday and she basically told me she is staying at home. and that..and she wants to see me tomorrow (monday) she seems like it on the phone..so im gonna be supportive and let her have her time to adjust to things....I wont let this go to waste..but im gonna go out and meet new girls jsut incace this falls threw..its only been a month or so..so why not? its not cheating if im not doing more than that..and if she comes around and gets adjusted to her new place..then its all good. I wont sit here and say that I dont want to lose this girl..I dont..and the last thing I want is to act like it..I care for her..want to make her happy by being me...whats some good advice? just stay busy with everythign else I have going on and give her space to get adjusted?
 
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