"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Girlfriend is OVERLY Emotional

Crissco

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Hey guys havent been on here in a while. Having some issues in my relationships. Me and GF has been arguing lately. Ill give good at bad overall about the relationship, in my eyes.

Bad:
Overly Emotional towards a lot of things
I have to hold her hand and make her "realize"
Takes her forever to understand a lot of things
Everything "comes out" when shes drunk
I have to repeat my self over and over / We run into the same issues
Shes been having an attitude lately
Takes a while to blow things off, just sits their and "thinks"
Admits to things, realized XYZ but the same problems come up


Good:
Cooks
Cleans/My place
Is there for me
Does the "little things" with nothing in return
Good balance between "clingy" and caring. Asks how my day is when shes at work, but doesnt over text
Open to a threesome
I have girls over when shes not here (To see if i like them for 3sum) - Has no issues about it
Learning computer programming/graphic design/ and self improvment with me
Took up weight lifting/boxing

Example - Today she is at a show for work in NYC. Some photographer for the show handed her a modeling agency card. Great happy for her, i know shes hot, but what got me is, she "texted" Im blushing..etc..Cool, but 10 min later she still was(As said through text)
To me...There is a difference between a LEGIT modeling agency handing you a card, compared to some guy or person doing it/putting it in your back pocket and continue to work instead of getting "emotionally up" about it.
It took her forever to understand that difference.

Im over reacting, I know that, the only part what got me was is how she didnt understand that, it makes her look un-loyal in my eyes.

She didnt realized that a little jealousy is a good thing, shows i do care, because if I wasn't a little jealous or didnt care, naturally, she would of been gone at the first hint of anything so to speak.

She has showed no other reason of un-loyalty, but we do have out very often and when we dont, she usually sends pictures (bc i know the people shes with, enjoy the moment) Great, thats awesome.

I have come so far in my life, especially mentally, i feel like I AM regressing back a bit because at times she just erks me the wrong way. You cant change people I know that

We've been dating for about 4-5 months

Am I taking this out of context here?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Suspens

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Crissco said:
Bad:
Overly Emotional towards a lot of things
I have to hold her hand and make her "realize"
Takes her forever to understand a lot of things
Everything "comes out" when shes drunk
I have to repeat my self over and over / We run into the same issues
Shes been having an attitude lately
Takes a while to blow things off, just sits their and "thinks"
Admits to things, realized XYZ but the same problems come up
Classic examples of a bad and toxic relationship on your list.
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Im over reacting, I know that, the only part what got me was is how she didnt understand that, it makes her look un-loyal in my eyes.

Am I taking this out of context here?[...]
No, you are not over reacting. What did you expect? She doesn't care:
Open to a threesome
I have girls over when shes not here (To see if i like them for 3sum) - Has no issues about it
 

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Suspens said:
Classic examples of a bad and toxic relationship on your list.


No, you are not over reacting. What did you expect? She doesn't care:
I saw some negativity without thinking coming. Actions are usually very good and you cant judge a threesome based on a person who cares or not.
 

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No, but don't expect absolute loyalty from such a girl.

Whatever rocks your boat mate.
 

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Suspens said:
No, but don't expect absolute loyalty from such a girl.

Whatever rocks your boat mate.

100% agreed. I know that. This more was more to take todays situation at hand and see opinions on it
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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