Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

[Robert28]

Bombard them with love and effection initialy.. Give them lots of attention... Then gradually take there drug away from them..

Once they are completely demoralised, you will get a good 10 or 15 years out of them.

Ding ding ding! You gotta slowly scale it back though. Start with something simple, like something you may have done before that she gushed over but next time she hints to it act oblivious. If she asks say no. If you REALLY want to earn 10 years of mind blowing sex here’s what you do. Be like any other guy she’s never met in the beginning, shower her with all that love and affection you mentioned. Now, suggest you two go out to a really busy bar or club one night, with or without friends, go up to the bar to order drinks and start talking to a girl or girls if they’re at the bar, just casual talk. Let her see that she could easily lose you because there’s other girls out there that will steal you away if she doesn’t act right. You have to practice this though to pull it off, don’t make it too obvious but she will be thinking “these skanks trying to talk to my man and take him away, I gotta step my game up!”

 

[soulforge]

Ding ding ding! You gotta slowly scale it back though. Start with something simple, like something you may have done before that she gushed over but next time she hints to it act oblivious. If she asks say no. If you REALLY want to earn 10 years of mind blowing sex here’s what you do. Be like any other guy she’s never met in the beginning, shower her with all that love and affection you mentioned. Now, suggest you two go out to a really busy bar or club one night, with or without friends, go up to the bar to order drinks and start talking to a girl or girls if they’re at the bar, just casual talk. Let her see that she could easily lose you because there’s other girls out there that will steal you away if she doesn’t act right. You have to practice this though to pull it off, don’t make it too obvious but she will be thinking “these skanks trying to talk to my man and take him away, I gotta step my game up!”

Yes.. I swear every chick I ever met, told me her ex treated her bad... Yet she stayed 15 years with him, and popped out two fukin cvnts!

 

[Robert28]

Yes.. I swear every chick I ever met, told me her ex treated her bad... Yet she stayed 15 years with him, and popped out two fukin cvnts!

The thing about single moms is they have a built in excuse to keep communication with their ex just because they had a kid. However if YOU said you kept communication with your ex, she would throw a fit. All girls would. It’s a double standard, kid or not.

 

[guru1000]

If you have an alpha widow on your hands it is always best just to leave.

I alpha-widow alpha widows.

OP, told you this before. We are about the same age. These chicks whom you date; I date their daughters. LOL

 

[soulforge]

I alpha-widow alpha widows.

OP, told you this before. We are about the same age. These chicks that you date; I date their daughters. LOL[/QUOT

I need to get that ruthless streak.. So I can alpha widow, alpha widows lol

 

[guru1000]

Be a savage out there bro. I took one of boys (he just got out of an LTR) out last night and the spot was filled with married women, bad choice. So I showed him what married women are willing to do while their husbands are home. He’ll Never be the same lol

 

[Ranger]

Lol exactly, "she left me because she said I didn't send her good morning text to show her she was the first person I though about when I woke up"

LOL yep it true. The first think I think about is I have to take a leak.

 

[soulforge]

Be a savage out there bro. I took one of boys (he just got out of an LTR) out last night and the spot was filled with married women, bad choice. So I showed him what married women are willing to do while their husbands are home. He’ll Never be the same lol

Married women suck the best dik

 

[Von]

Dump her. She's not into you.

Now, get a real LTR.

Avoid the LongDistance

 

[soulforge]

Dump her. She's not into you.

Now, get a real LTR.

Avoid the LongDistance

Already ghosted.. Never touching long distance again

 

[sazc]

Nah man.. Seriously that dude has a hold on her.. He just walks through the door into her house without even knocking on the door.

Like I said.. Damaged fuking goods

Still? Wow...nope. how did you deal? Nope.

 

[zekko]

Being blindsided with a dump means one isn’t clued in to her cumulative withdrawals and those withdrawals can and should be dealt with if they were only in his awareness to begin with.

I wouldn't say he was blindsided exactly, he said he knew something was up.

 

[Robert28]

Brother we have all been there and know what you mean. Hell, as much as I've learned about women and their ways in all my years, my ass still gets fooled! I fell for a girl couple years ago that worked at my gym but then she left and we crossed paths and started seeing each other. Anyways, I don't know how this girl managed to do it but I found myself catching feelings after the 2nd and 3rd date. I have gone on 5 dates with the same woman before AND STILL wasn't sure if I liked them or not. This girl had me tossing the Don Juan book out the window and I was flying blind. I know I did multiple things wrong like being "too nice" and all but when I say I thought this girl was different, I truly thought she was. Nope. She went silent BUT I was smart enough to let her ass go silent and not chase after her. I was hoping wed get to talk and maybe I could save face somehow, and straighten my ass up and step back some and clear my head about her. I didn't smother her when we dated, but I think I was unlike anyone shed ever dated (she said as much). I dunno, but it messed me up for awhile. When I say messed me up I was basically "if I can't trust her then who the fvck woman can I trust?" Answer, none of them! I could have the most beautiful girl walk by me and I'd turn my head on purpose and think "fvck her, I hope she trips". Or if some broad tried to talk to me in line or whatever, I'd do my best to avoid it and walk away. Wanted nothing to do with women at all. I finally got over it though but damn there really aren't any quality women left out there. I get tired of playing the game and constantly having to be on my toes around women. It gets old. It makes me age fast too.lol

 

[DreamAgain]

Already ghosted.. Never touching long distance again

Long distance is generally bad. But brother, let me tell you something. The red flags were probably there earlier on but you chose to put your head in the sand and ignore them. We've all been there. But this woman wasn't so smart that she was able to pull the rope-a-dope for 2 years.

The first moment you noticed interest dropping on her end, you should have immedietly started spinning plates again. No bs excuse on her end that she's "damaged" from her ex. You think if she was talking to Brad Pitt she would spew that bs? She would be on her best behavior and dot every i, cross every t.

Learn from this and move on, you'll be just fine.

 

[Robert28]

I'm guilty as anyone about ignoring early warning signs sometimes, especially in my situation in my post above. Even Tom Brady throws interceptions and hes the damn GOAT! Every now and then you meet a girl that just captures you and you think "eh, fvck all those dumb rules about Alpha and Don Juan and all that crap, I'm just going to live in the moment". Then you get bit in the ass. These rules aren't foolproof but dang they will save you a ton of trouble!

 

[soulforge]

I'm guilty as anyone about ignoring early warning signs sometimes, especially in my situation in my post above. Even Tom Brady throws interceptions and hes the damn GOAT! Every now and then you meet a girl that just captures you and you think "eh, fvck all those dumb rules about Alpha and Don Juan and all that crap, I'm just going to live in the moment". Then you get bit in the ass. These rules aren't foolproof but dang they will save you a ton of trouble!

Exactly this, sometimes we get caught in the moment and let emotions get in the way.

But in all honesty the only change I saw in her was in the last 6 months when we where not having sex as much.. Even I wasn't feeling it sex wise.

Most of the red flags popped up very sudden in the last 3 - 4 weeks.

We had a couple of arguments.. She mentioned about being scared of getting attached emotionally.. She had a drink, and let slip her EX has some power over her.

Last weekend we went out for the day and she didn't hold my hand for around and hour.. She usually does.. I knew that seemed odd, but I didn't give a fuk and just carried on. She then put her hand inside my pocket and grabbed my hand & held it..

That was a little odd.

99% of the distance I felt from her was in the last 3 days or so.. By which I started pulling back too and considered a preemptive dumping.

I need to watch there behaviour much closer in the future.

But maybe I should see this as a blessing too.. Even though I really liked this chick, another 4 years of long distance would never had worked out.

Rather now than later.

 

[lamath]

'm just next in line in her little fairytale Fantasy Land.

You will be there until reality hit her in the face then time to find someone new to get back to Fantasy land lolllll

Was reading somewherr that new relationship honeymoon phase laset about 2 year.
That would explain op situation

 

[Ranger]

One thing that's odd to me is anyone who's actually had taken woman monkey Branch to them should be very well aware of how nonsensical the woman's reasoning is for leaving the guy usually. Very rare that the guy did anything terribly wrong. 90% of the time it some structural issue like the guy balding or the guy filled a need at the time they got together that she doesn't feel is important anymore. I guess if my goal in attracting women was to inflate my ego and build up a false sense of pride then I would pretend like I'm somehow better than that guy but the truth is I'm just next in line in her little fairytale Fantasy Land. The funny thing is those guys replace her with a better woman and I do too later on, so let her go.

Actually it’s not. It seems that way is all. She presents it that way. In essence, she faded out of “love” or interest.
She’s had time to reduce him. He popped into relationship mode. This will turn off the feel good emotions in her.
The action of jumping to the new guy needs to be justified. If there isn’t something she can readily nail down as the reason...she will make one up.

He walks weird. He has skinny ankles. He’s indifferent to my emotional needs (complaining and nagging)

Men get this backwards. They are told there’s something wrong with them when in fact there’s nothing wrong with them. She has to justify and rationalize her actions or the action she is about to take. Brutalizing men, leaving them etc. is a way to ease her mind for acting on her biological responses.

In the end it really was the man. He reduced himself to hubby or little boyfriend. But not for the reasons she says it was. Holding this masculine frame is the hardest thing a man will have to endure. It is a battle to hold your frame in light of her skill at reducing a man over even a few months of being together. He has to fight his own nesting and protection biology.

 

[zekko]

Was reading somewherr that new relationship honeymoon phase laset about 2 year.

I've always thought that the six month mark was the splitting point for people who weren't really compatible, for whatever reason (like LDRs).

For marriages, they call the point where you lose desire for your mate as the "seven year itch". I wouldn't be surprised with the modern world, porn, and our attention deficient culture, to see that amount of time decrease, however.

 

[FMCSMT]

I would recommend that you block her from your phone so that you are not tempted to communicate back. It’s one thing to ignore texts when it’s someone you weren’t invested in. It’s another animal entirely when you were invested, banging other women or banging weights at the gym or not.

If (when) she reaches out, it will be difficult for you to remain ghost.

I dated one similar to your situation just before finding this site through Rollo’s book. I have changed drastically since her. She still reaches out from time to time and it’s still very hard to stay quiet. She is blocked and deleted from my phone but she comes through on FB messenger. She even uses voice messaging and I love her voice.

I would recommend blocking her so you don’t get tempted. She will reach out again and it won’t be easy.

Also, you didn’t waste time with her. You had fun. You had sex. You had a relationship and experience. It wasn’t a waste.

Block her for yourself and delete the contact so you cannot find her. Another man is fvcking her and she ended it via text. Do this for yourself and you’ll be better off. You also cannot be distracted by her reaching out later if she cannot reach out later.