Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

[lamath]

They don't value chit... They always believe something better is around the corner.. and rarely do they find that better!

I am a firm believer now, that some woman like to be treated like garbage!

I have met so many woman, who have dedicated there lives to nasty horrible men.

That fight because of the sales men, was because she was serching for something to fight about, her decision was already made at that time.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Lol i'm a old school kinda guy.. I rather chill with a HB6 if she is of good character.. This one was a HB8.. but can already tell is a potential pain in the ass lol

Yeah you need peace and great sex. Fvck a pain in the azz.

 

[soulforge]

That fight because of the sales men, was because she was serching for something to fight about, her decision was already made at that time.

It wasn't even a fight bruv to be honest.. just a few harsh words, it lasted about 5 mins.. she felt like I was picking on her, all I was doing was making her aware she needs to be careful and smarter about these types of situations.

But i get you.. she probably used the situation to play VICTIM.

I'm never helping a woman with chit again.. Just smash that puzzy and send her azz home! Joke... I think..

 

[soulforge]

Yeah you need peace and great sex. Fvck a pain in the azz.

I agree Mr Good stuff... puzzy and a peaceful life is all we need right

 

[lamath]

It wasn't even a fight bruv to be honest.. just a few harsh words, it lasted about 5 mins.. she felt like I was picking on her, all I was doing was making her aware she needs to be careful and smarter about these types of situations.

But i get you.. she probably used the situation to play VICTIM.

I'm never helping a woman with chit again.. Just smash that puzzy and send her azz home! Joke... I think..

Not the victim but wanted to leave the relationship already so finding reason to get into a fight.

I did something similar before i left my 12y ltr, every fight we ever had before she initiated.
But then when i decided i had enough all hell broke loose, i was starting fight left and right.

 

[soulforge]

That fight because of the sales men, was because she was serching for something to fight about, her decision was already made at that time.

That fight wasn't even a fight... few harsh words.. very random, definitely not pre planned.. lasted about 5 mins.. she felt like I picked on her..

It wasn't a full on fight... in fact we barely ever fought.. the relationship was 98% drama free.

Anyhow who gives a fuk about all that... totaly irrelevant.. the fact is, long distance does NOT work.

A relationship needs to go somewhere... just seeing each other once or twice a week for 5 or 6 years, is a recipe for disaster.

 

[stevieLA]

Lol i'm a old school kinda guy.. I rather chill with a HB6 if she is of good character.. This one was a HB8.. but can already tell is a potential pain in the ass lol

Hold up, someone said she had a teenaged child or two. This means she is 40 or close to it. I don't know of any 40 year old women who are 8's. Even early 30's is pushing it.

 

[soulforge]

Hold up, someone said she had a teenaged child or two. This means she is 40 or close to it. I don't know of any 40 year old women who are 8's. Even early 30's is pushing it.

No bruv... this is another chick I banged... she isn't my EX... she used to work at my company, we stayed in touch.

 

[stevieLA]

I never raised my voice... as I stated before, i treated this girl with dignity and respect... Why? Because she is or was a good human being.

However sometimes people need a wake up call.. she was a naive individual, and can easily be taken advantage of.. I advised her, not to sign up with sales men turning up at her door.

If that is ALL it takes for woman to resent and walk away from there man... Then I fukin give up!

LOL, you just committed a hate crime by protecting her. What a f_cking world we live in.

 

[soulforge]

LOL, you just committed a hate crime by protecting her. What a f_cking world we live in.

Lol i tried to save her ass from getting robbed, and got dumped for it... What the fuk went wrong with woman and the world?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Damn! Just got the text message off her now..

Really sorry to say its not working out.. not been feeling it for a while. Sorry!


I knew it was coming.. Here is the thing.. I did notice the sex was not what it used to be.. Plus she kept telling me how her EX had really messed her feelings up, and she found it difficult to develop feelings for anyone since then.

I really do believe her ex did mess her up, she was somewhat emotionally detached right from day one.

Plus... The distance thing probably would not have worked out.. She lives an hour away and has a 12 year old son.. We couldn't be together, in the sense living together etc till her son is at least 17 or 18 years old.

That is another 4 years of long distance... And long distance is hard fuking work.

I have to admit its gona hurt man.. I really did like this chick.. invested two years in her!

Gona have to suck it up and hit the gym hard.

So guys should a reply back with.. I'm good with that.. good luck.


Or just totally ghost?

Ghost. Houdini disappear. Gonzo.

Women are transparent. Distance, remote, nagging, bitchy, etc means pull the chute.

#nextset

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Lol i tried to save her ass from getting robbed, and got dumped for it... What the fuk went wrong with woman and the world?

I can't figure where you went wrong.

 

[sazc]

Lol i tried to save her ass from getting robbed, and got dumped for it... What the fuk went wrong with woman and the world?

I'm going to GUESS that she felt like she couldn't make any/msny "right" (correct) choices around you. That she felt like you were always correcting her, or telling her how and why you knew better/knew how to do it better/made better choices, or done shiz like that. I'll go out on a limb and say that you reminded her of the ways her dad treated her wrong (speculation)

Regardless, one thing is clear - she's been holding onto her resentments for a while, and not talking to you about them in a problem solving manner. THAT is why the breakup felt sudden/pseudo sudden

I'll tell you this - she better get a handle on how she communicate inside relationships, or she will never be successful.

 

[soulforge]

I'm going to GUESS that she felt like she couldn't make any/msny "right" (correct) choices around you. That she felt like you were always correcting her, or telling her how and why you knew better/knew how to do it better/made better choices, or done shiz like that. I'll go out on a limb and say that you reminded her of the ways her dad treated her wrong (speculation)

Regardless, one thing is clear - she's been holding onto her resentments for a while, and not talking to you about them in a problem solving manner. THAT is why the breakup felt sudden/pseudo sudden

I'll tell you this - she better get a handle on how she communicate inside relationships, or she will never be successful.

I wish I didn't have to tell her to be careful.. but believe me when I tell you this, she is quite a naive character.. I had to help her find a mechanic for her car, as she got ripped off a few times.

She was paying twice as much car insurance as she should have been paying, she asked me to help her find a better policy.. Which I did.

Her last two partners (according to her) treated her terribly... Her last long term partner, left her and moved in with another woman.

I'm probably one of the few people who treated her well.

We only had a couple of little arguments, and those where just recently.. Maybe she became resentful.

This is the problem with long distance relationships, its difficult to communicate and resolve problems face to face. MOST of your time is spent apart from each other.

 

[backseatjuan]

MOST of your time is spent apart from each other.

...and seeing and fcking other people.

 

[guru1000]

The argument was simply a guise to pull the trigger to the break up agenda that she’s been holding on to for a while.

Any girl who is head over heels for you would forgive and forget even if you did much worse.

Don’t be hurt by this. Rather look deeper to find out why you didn’t ignite that “trooper” attraction. Look to the subtleties of things she mentioned, qualities she admired, certain nuances she was drawn or averse to, what aspects or conditions her ex whom she had feelings for held that you didn’t—and you shall find your answer.

Some questions to consider:

1) Were your boundaries lacking?
2) Did she respect you?
3) Did she admire you?
4) Was she physically into you?
5) Whom between you was more emotionally invested? Why?
6) Who did the initiating? If both, what % did she and did you?
7) What type of frame were you carrying?
8) Most important: Did you give her space to chase? A girl whom is chasing you will not be breaking up with you.

 

[soulforge]

The argument was simply a guise to pull the trigger to the break up agenda that she’s been holding on to for a while.

Any girl who is head over heels for you would forgive and forget even if you did much worse.

Don’t be hurt by this. Rather look deeper to find out why you didn’t ignite that “trooper” attraction. Look to the subtleties of things she mentioned, qualities she admired, certain nuances she was drawn or averse to, what aspects or conditions her ex whom she had feelings for held that you didn’t—and you shall find your answer.

Some other questions to consider;

1) Were your boundaries lacking?
2) Did she respect you?
3) Did she admire you?
4) Was she physically into you?
5) Whom between you was more emotionally invested? Why?
6) Who did the initiating or chasing? If both, what % did she and did you?

I hear what you are saying man.. However I think the biggest contributer to things not working out, was the distance.. and a lack of communication.

To answer your questions.

01. My boundaries where ALWAYS rock solid.. She instinctively knew never to step over a certain line.. She was never rude or disrespectful towards me.

02. Yes she respected me.. Always followed my lead, and talked and behaved in a respectful manner.

03. Did she admire me? She admired how no matter what, i worked my ass off in the gym, she admired the fact I do great in my job, and she admired me for not taking any kinda chit from anyone.

03.The sex between us was always good, but it did die down a little near the end.. We still had good sex, just a little less often.. This generally does happen a couple of years into a relationship.

04. We both was emotionally invested.. But she was the first to say I Love You.. She was the first hold me and kiss me, when we met up..

05.Initiating was 70% her.. 30% me... She would ALWAYS be the one to text me first thing in the morning. And i would send the text in the afternoon after work... We rarely texted each other during the day.

Near the end, we had a couple of arguments that where quite minor, but it created some distance between us.

As for her EX... All she ever told me was that he was a complete azzhole, who treated her bad, and he left her for another woman.

The fact is I shouldn't be investing in a relationship with a woman, who is long distance.. and I cannot be with her for another 4-5 years.. Its a waste of time.

I am moving the fuk on!

 

[guru1000]

Of course you’re moving on, there’s no doubt. I’m more interested in placing you in a position where you never make a thread like this again. Capiche brother?!

You can be a man who never gets dumped and will do all the dumping from now on. I want you there.

You mentioned you had several arguments. What transpired after the arguments that got you back into communications? Who reached out to whom? Where was your power lost? Think and share to release this forever.

 

[soulforge]

Of course you’re moving on, there’s no doubt. I’m more interested in placing you in a position where you never make a thread like this again. Capiche brother?!

You can be a man who never gets dumped and will do all the dumping from now on. I want you there.

You mentioned you had several arguments. What transpired after the arguments that got you back into communications? Who reached out to whom? Where was your power lost? Think and share to release this forever.

After both arguments, she reached out to me, and made up for it... and on both occasions sent a text message to apologise.. No power was lost.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I wish I didn't have to tell her to be careful.. but believe me when I tell you this, she is quite a naive character.. I had to help her find a mechanic for her car, as she got ripped off a few times.

She was paying twice as much car insurance as she should have been paying, she asked me to help her find a better policy.. Which I did.

Her last two partners (according to her) treated her terribly... Her last long term partner, left her and moved in with another woman.

I'm probably one of the few people who treated her well.

We only had a couple of little arguments, and those where just recently.. Maybe she became resentful.

This is the problem with long distance relationships, its difficult to communicate and resolve problems face to face. MOST of your time is spent apart from each other.

It sound's like it was played out.

In future, girl gets distant, LMR or a ****ty attitude, check out. Plate her.

Go get more girls.