"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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girlfriend is becoming quite afc lol

Enjin 7

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she has been what you guys would consider an afc if it applies to girls.

she tells me a lot that I am everything that she has ever wanted in a guy, and starts listing reasons and qualities why she thinks that I am so much better than every other guy. she talks about how she has never felt about any other guy the way she feels about me, and she tells me this a lot.

It is definately very sweet. She's such a cute girl... I don't really know how to respond to this, tho! like... what can I say when she says this stuff? I feel the same... but I am sure I shouldnt just straight up tell her...

so what should I say?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't say anything if you don't really feel it. If you feel the need to tell her you like her a lot and everything, do it, but never top her. Show her you like her and all but leave her with the feeling she cares more about you, than you do about her so she'll always have to keep working..
 
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How long have you know her? How many times have you hungout with her? How often do you see/call her? Need more info.
 

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known her: 5 months?

talk to her: pretty much... like 4 hours a day for real via internet/text

hang out: weekends + random weekdays every once in a while

I pretty much feel like I've known her forever.
 

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what can I say when she says this stuff? I feel the same... but I am sure I shouldnt just straight up tell her...
And why can't you tell her? The idea is to never show her too much affection. Since the type of guy this website attracts tend to always show WAY too much affection way too fast, the rule gets butchered and becomes 'never show affection' - but this is as damaging as showing too much. When she says "You are great and wonderful and amazing and no guy has ever made me feel this way and I think I'm falling for you" then you're not going to lower her interest by saying "hey I think you're pretty cool too." You'll actually raise it by reciprocating her feelings.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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I agree with Brother. You should tell her she's cute and stuff like that once in a while, just don't overdo it. Don't become a romeo wanna-be and get her chocolate and flowers all the time (she'll get spoiled, and fat).
 
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